tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86972290970706245262024-03-13T19:54:41.177-07:00FRIENDSHIP AMONG NATIONSMenjadi seorang sahabat yang menaruh kasih setiap saat, dan menjadi saudara yang sesungguhnya dalam masa sulit.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-86671301383166555992016-11-03T23:19:00.001-07:002016-11-03T23:19:16.189-07:00 Kata Kata Mutiara Persahabatan dan Kesetiaan Sajian <em>bijak</em> nan indah tentang <a href="http://www.katakatamutiaralogs.com/persahabatan-dan-kesetiaan/">kata kata mutiara persahabatan</a> dan kesetiaan yang akan meluruskan makna pertemanan <i>sejati dan cinta</i>.
Karena setiap orang memiliki perspektif berbeda dalam memaknai segala
sesuatu. Namun, sesulit apapun perspektif itu akan mampu disamakan,
bukan dengan kata, tetapi dengan makna.<br />
<strong><i>Leo Buscaglia</i></strong> pernah berkata bahwa seuntai
bunga mawar dapat menjadi kebun ku. Namun seorang sahabat akan mampu
menjadi duniaku. Begitu berarti nya mereka (para sahabat kita), sehingga
dunia ini akan terasa hampa tanpa ada mereka disetiap sisi kehidupan
kita.<br />
Nikmatilah sajian <a href="http://www.katakatamutiaralogs.com/" target="_blank">kata kata mutiara</a>
ini, saya tidak bermaksud menggurui anda dalam hal persahabatan. Karena
sampai saat saya belum paham arti kata itu. Namun satu hal yang saya
yakini bahwa semakin banyak kita memiliki sahabat, semakin mudah kita
meraih impian dan menghadapi kesulitan.<br />
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Salah satu hal terindah dari kualitas persahabatan sejati adalah saling memahami dan dipahami</blockquote>
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Persahabatan adalah soal tanggungjawab bukan kesempatan</blockquote>
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Persahabatan akan menunjukan kasih sayang dan kepeduliannya dalam kesulitan bukan kesenangan</blockquote>
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Adalah wajar jika kita merayakan kesuksesan. Tetapi yang
terpenting adalah mengambil pelajaran atas setiap kegagalan yang terjadi</blockquote>
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Jika kamu tidak bisa membuat sesuatu menjadi lebih baik, setidaknya buatlah agar sesuatu itu tampak lebih baik</blockquote>
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Bahasa persahabatan bukanlah kata kata melainkan makna</blockquote>
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Cinta tanpa persahabatan sebagai alasnya, layaknya membangun rumah diatas pasir</blockquote>
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Sahabat sejati adalah seorang yang muncul dari balik pintu saat yang lainnya pergi</blockquote>
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Senyuman yang hangat adalah bahasa universal yang melambangkan kebaikan</blockquote>
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Lebih baik membangun bisnis dengan persahabatan dari membangun persahabatan dalam ikatan bisnis</blockquote>
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Seseorang tidak bisa dikatakan sukses selama belum bisa menghargai dan memahami satu dari sekian banyak sahabatnya</blockquote>
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Teman akan selalu hadir dalam setiap jiwa spiritual perjalanan hidupku</blockquote>
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Sahabat bukanlah mereka yang menghampirimu karena butuh,
melainkan mereka yang tetap bersamamu bahkan saat semesta menjauh darimu<br />
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Seorang anak akan belajar arti sebuah senyuman dari orangtua nya</blockquote>
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Setiap orang membutuhkan sahabat yang akan mendorongnya untuk maju menghadapi kesulitan</blockquote>
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Layaknya padang rumput yang hijau dan luas, persahabatan akan terus tumbuh selama masih ada kehidupan</blockquote>
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Sumber inspirasiku adalah wanita, sahabat, dan kesunyian</blockquote>
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Jika Tuhan menciptakan mentari disiang hari untuk
menerangi kehidupanmu, maka Tuhan juga mendatangkan sahabat yang siap
menerangi gelapnya jalan kehidupanmu</blockquote>
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Tak ada gunanya seorang penolong yang selalu menghina atau teman yang selalu berburuk sangka</blockquote>
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Sebodoh-bodohnya manusia adalah mereka yang tak mampu
memperoleh teman di dunia ini. Namun yang paling bodoh lagi adalah
mereka yang membiarkan perginya seorang teman</blockquote>
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Perdebatan dan perseteruan adalah perekat yang akan memperkokoh persahabatan</blockquote>
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Antara persahabatan dan keegoan terdapat celah untuk saling menguatkan</blockquote>
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Kerahasiaan adalah kesucian dalam persahabatan</blockquote>
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Janganlah engkau merasa senang dengan banyaknya teman,
selama mereka bukan orang yang baik-baik. Sebab, kedudukan teman seperti
api, sedikitnya adalah kenikmatan, sedangkan banyaknya adalah
kebinasaan</blockquote>
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Disaat dunia terasa begitu sulit, maka sahabat akan hadir dengan berbagai kemudahan yang bisa ia berikan</blockquote>
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Saat tak seorang pun mengerti, disinilah kamu akan melihat siapa sahabat kamu yang sebenarnya</blockquote>
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Sahabat, mereka yang membantu mu tetap berdiri saat yang lain menjatuhkanmu</blockquote>
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Perlakukan kawan mu layaknya kerabatmu yang dekat</blockquote>
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Keagungan adalah kemenangan. Namun tak ada yang lebih agung dari pengorbanan seorang sahabat</blockquote>
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Cinta akan lebih jarang kita temukan daripada orang jenius. Namun sahabat akan sangat jarang kita temukan ketimbang cinta</blockquote>
Ada satu lagi pesan saya dalam memahami makna persahabatan, saya mengutip perkataan <strong>Ali Bin Abi Thalib</strong> untuk Anda renungkan.<br />
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Teman-temanmu ada tiga dan musuh-musuhmu juga ada tiga.
Adapaun teman-temanmu ialah temanmu sendiri, teman dari temanmu dan
musuh dari musuhmu. Sedangkan musuh-musuhmu ialah musuhmu sendiri, musuh
temanmu dan teman musuhmu</blockquote>
Demikianlah sajian <a href="http://www.katakatamutiaralogs.com/indah-tentang-cinta-dan-sayang/" target="_blank">kata kata indah</a>
tentang persahabatan yang bisa saya berikan hari ini. Ketahuilah bahwa
hidup di dunia ini tak perlu orang yang sempurna, cukup temukan orang
yang selalu membuatmu bahagia dan membuatmu berarti lebih dari siapapun
maka akan kau temukan indahnya dunia.</blockquote>
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Lawan adalah teman yang sebenarnya</blockquote>
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Terkadang dalam persahabatan selalu berakhir dengan cinta. Namun cinta takkan pernah berakhir dengan persahabatan</blockquote>
Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-36541595378280268432016-11-03T23:17:00.004-07:002016-11-03T23:17:53.338-07:00Persahabatan<h1 class="firstHeading" id="firstHeading" lang="id">
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<b>Persahabatan</b> atau <b>pertemanan</b> adalah istilah yang
menggambarkan perilaku kerja sama dan saling mendukung antara dua atau
lebih entitas sosial. Artikel ini memusatkan perhatian pada pemahaman
yang khas dalam hubungan antar pribadi. Dalam pengertian ini, istilah
"persahabatan" menggambarkan suatu <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hubungan" title="Hubungan">hubungan</a> yang melibatkan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pengetahuan" title="Pengetahuan">pengetahuan</a>, <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penghargaan" title="Penghargaan">penghargaan</a> dan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Afeksi" title="Afeksi">afeksi</a>. Sahabat akan menyambut kehadiran sesamanya dan menunjukkan <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Kesetiaan&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Kesetiaan (halaman belum tersedia)">kesetiaan</a> satu sama lain, seringkali hingga pada <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Altruisme" title="Altruisme">altruisme</a>. <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Selera_%28estetika%29&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Selera (estetika) (halaman belum tersedia)">selera</a>
mereka biasanya serupa dan mungkin saling bertemu, dan mereka menikmati
kegiatan-kegiatan yang mereka sukai. Mereka juga akan terlibat dalam <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perilaku_manusia" title="Perilaku manusia">perilaku</a> yang <a class="mw-redirect" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mutualisme" title="Mutualisme">saling menolong</a>,
seperti tukar-menukar nasihat dan saling menolong dalam kesulitan.
Sahabat adalah orang yang memperlihatkan perilaku yang berbalasan dan
reflektif. Namun bagi banyak orang, persahabatan seringkali tidak lebih
daripada kepercayaan bahwa seseorang atau sesuatu tidak akan merugikan
atau menyakiti mereka.<br />
Nilai yang terdapat dalam persahabatan seringkali apa yang dihasilkan ketika seorang sahabat memperlihatkan secara konsisten:<br />
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<li>kecenderungan untuk <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Keinginan&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Keinginan (halaman belum tersedia)">menginginkan</a> apa yang <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Kepentingan_pribadi&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Kepentingan pribadi (halaman belum tersedia)">terbaik bagi satu sama lain</a>.</li>
<li><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simpati" title="Simpati">simpati</a> dan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empati" title="Empati">empati</a>.</li>
<li><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Kejujuran&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Kejujuran (halaman belum tersedia)">kejujuran</a>, barangkali dalam keadaan-keadaan yang sulit bagi orang lain untuk mengucapkan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kebenaran" title="Kebenaran">kebenaran</a>.</li>
<li>saling pengertian.</li>
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Seringkali ada anggapan bahwa sahabat sejati sanggup mengungkapkan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emosi" title="Emosi">perasaan-perasaan</a>
yang terdalam, yang mungkin tidak dapat diungkapkan, kecuali dalam
keadaan-keadaan yang sangat sulit, ketika mereka datang untuk menolong.
Dibandingkan dengan <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Hubungan_antar-pribadi&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Hubungan antar-pribadi (halaman belum tersedia)">hubungan pribadi</a>,
persahabatan dianggap lebih dekat daripada sekadar kenalan, meskipun
dalam persahabatan atau hubungan antar kenalan terdapat tingkat <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Keintiman" title="Keintiman">keintiman</a> yang berbeda-beda. Bagi banyak orang, persahabatan dan hubungan antar kenalan terdapat dalam kontinum yang sama.<br />
Disiplin-disiplin utama yang mempelajari persahabatan adalah <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sosiologi" title="Sosiologi">sosiologi</a>, <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antropologi" title="Antropologi">antropologi</a> dan <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zoologi" title="Zoologi">zoologi</a>. Berbagai teori tentang persahabatan telah dikemukakan, di antaranya adalah <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psikologi_sosial" title="Psikologi sosial">psikologi sosial</a>, <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teori_pertukaran_sosial" title="Teori pertukaran sosial">teori pertukaran sosial</a>, <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Teori_keadilan&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Teori keadilan (halaman belum tersedia)">teori keadilan</a>, <a class="mw-redirect" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dialektika" title="Dialektika">dialektika</a> relasional, dan tingkat keakraban. <i>Lihat <a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Hubungan_antar-pribadi&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Hubungan antar-pribadi (halaman belum tersedia)">Hubungan antar-pribadi</a></i><br />
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Daftar isi</h2>
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<li class="toclevel-1 tocsection-1"><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persahabatan#Etimologi"><span class="tocnumber">1</span> <span class="toctext">Etimologi</span></a></li>
<li class="toclevel-1 tocsection-2"><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persahabatan#Bibliografi"><span class="tocnumber">2</span> <span class="toctext">Bibliografi</span></a></li>
<li class="toclevel-1 tocsection-3"><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persahabatan#Lihat_pula"><span class="tocnumber">3</span> <span class="toctext">Lihat pula</span></a></li>
<li class="toclevel-1 tocsection-4"><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persahabatan#Pranala_luar"><span class="tocnumber">4</span> <span class="toctext">Pranala luar</span></a></li>
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<span class="mw-headline" id="Etimologi">Etimologi</span></h2>
Kata "sahabat" berasal dari bahasa Arab <i>shahabah</i> (ash-shahaabah, الصحابه) yang pada mulanya merujuk pada <a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sahabat_Nabi" title="Sahabat Nabi">sahabat Nabi</a>.<br />
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<span class="mw-headline" id="Bibliografi">Bibliografi</span></h2>
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<li><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aristoteles" title="Aristoteles">Aristoteles</a>, <i><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Etika_Nikomakhean&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Etika Nikomakhean (halaman belum tersedia)">Etika Nikomakhean</a></i></li>
<li><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cicero" title="Cicero">Cicero</a>, "On Friendship"</li>
<li>David Hein, "Farrer on Friendship, Sainthood, and the Will of God" (dalam <i>Captured by the Crucified: The Practical Theology of Austin Farrer</i>, disunting oleh David Hein dan Edward Hugh Henderson. New York and London: Continuum/T. & T. Clark, 2004. 119–48)</li>
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<span class="mw-headline" id="Lihat_pula">Lihat pula</span></h2>
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<li><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Jaringan_persahabatan&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Jaringan persahabatan (halaman belum tersedia)">Jaringan persahabatan</a></li>
<li><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cinta" title="Cinta">Cinta</a></li>
<li><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Mentoring&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Mentoring (halaman belum tersedia)">Mentoring</a></li>
<li><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Cinta_Platonis&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Cinta Platonis (halaman belum tersedia)">Cinta Platonis</a></li>
<li><a class="new" href="https://id.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Hubungan_sosial&action=edit&redlink=1" title="Hubungan sosial (halaman belum tersedia)">Hubungan sosial</a></li>
</ul>
<h2>
<span class="mw-headline" id="Pranala_luar">Pranala luar</span></h2>
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<i><b><a class="extiw" href="https://id.wikiquote.org/wiki/Special:Search/Persahabatan" title="q:Special:Search/Persahabatan">Persahabatan</a></b></i></div>
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<td class="mbox-text plainlist"><a href="https://id.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wikimedia_Commons" title="Wikimedia Commons">Wikimedia Commons</a> memiliki galeri mengenai:
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<i><b><a class="extiw" href="https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Category:Friends" title="commons:Category:Friends">Friends</a></b></i></div>
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</tbody></table>
<ul>
<li><a class="external text" href="http://www.poems4ever.com/friendship-poems.htm" rel="nofollow">Poems on Friendship</a></li>
<li><a class="external text" href="http://www.tpn.info/" rel="nofollow">The Penpals Network</a></li>
<li><a class="external text" href="http://www.friendshack.com/" rel="nofollow">A worldwide friendship finding site</a></li>
<li><a class="external text" href="http://www.tpn.info/" rel="nofollow">A international Friendship Network</a></li>
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Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-21334401655303777792016-11-03T23:17:00.001-07:002016-11-03T23:17:16.624-07:0030 Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan Menginspirasi Anda Menjadi Sahabat yang Lebih Baik<h1 class="h2 entry-title single-title" itemprop="headline">
Di dunia ini, kamu tidak dapat hidup sendiri. Kamu selalu membutuhkan
seseorang yang bisa menenangkanmu dalam segala situasi,
yaitu sahabat. Seorang sahabat adalah orang yang tepat untuk
menghadirkan kata kata bijak persahabatan.</h1>
Tak jarang, kata kata
bijak persahabatan muncul di saat musibah datang pada kamu. Sahabat
seperti lilin di saat gelap atau mercusuar ditengah laut. Dialah
seseorang yang Tuhan beri untuk menemanimu menyusuri lika-liku
kehidupan.<br />
Bersyukurlah atas teman-teman hebat yang telah
diberikan kepadamu. Maknailah lagi persahabatanmu dengan kumpulan kata
kata bijak persahabatan ini.<br />
<h2>
1. Maya Angelou Tentang Orang Asing</h2>
<img alt="Kumpulan Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan - Maya Angelou" height="360" src="https://www.kutipkata.com/_images/03-Kompilasi/03-kumpulan-kata-kata-bijak-persahabatan_02-maya-angelou_640x360-min.jpg" width="640" /><br />
<blockquote>
Seorang teman ada dibalik wajah-wajah yang asing<cite>Maya Angelou</cite></blockquote>
Ketika
hati kamu terbuka untuk semua hal baru dalam hidupmu, kamu akan
menemukan sahabat terbaik. Pada awalnya, kamu tidak mengenal mereka dan
mereka bukanlah seseorang untukmu.<br />
Seiring dengan kehidupan,
ketetapan hatimu akan terbalut dalam sebuah persahabatan. Wajah wajah
asing itu akan seketika menjadi orang-orang yang berpengaruh bagi
kehidupan anda. Inilah kata kata bijak untuk sahabat terbaik anda.<br />
<h2>
2. Aristoteles & Buah Persahabatan</h2>
<blockquote>
Menjadi seorang teman adalah pekerjaan mudah, tapi persahabatan adalah buah yang lama berbuah<cite>Aristoteles</cite></blockquote>
Seorang
teman dan sahabat adalah dua orang berbeda karakternya. Kamu bisa
memiliki ribuan teman di luar sana, tetapi kamu hanya memiliki sedikit
orang sebagai sahabat. Kamu mendapat kata kata persahabatan terbaik dari
sahabatmu.<br />
Kata kata bijak persahabatan ini menyatakan bahwa
sahabat muncul melalui proses pengenalan yang lama. Semakin lama
mengenal dan bersama, semakin kamu akan percaya bahwa dialah sahabatmu
sesungguhnya.<br />
<h2>
3. Warren Buffet: Sahabatmu, Panutanmu</h2>
<blockquote>
Berkawanlah
dengan orang-orang yang lebih baik darimu. Pilihlah
sahabat-sahabat yang memiliki kepribadian lebih baik darimu, maka anda
akan mencoba melakukan hal yang sama<cite>Warren Buffet</cite></blockquote>
Memiliki
sahabat bukan saja memiliki satu atau beberapa orang untuk membagi
cerita. Sahabat yang baik adalah mereka yang selalu berusaha membagikan
contoh paling baik bagi hidup.<br />
Mereka menjadi inspirasi bagi kamu
untuk berkembang. Ketika mereka berkembang, mereka akan mendorongmu
untuk ikut berkembang. Karena itu adalah hal yang manis ketika sahabat
mampu sukses bersama.<br />
<h2>
4. Ralph Waldo Emerson Tahu Bagaimana Menjadi Sahabat</h2>
<blockquote>
Satu-satunya jalan untuk mempunyai sahabat adalah menjadi seorang sahabat<cite>Ralph Waldo Emerson</cite></blockquote>
Dalam
memulai persahabatan, kamu tidak perlu harta melimpah ataupun berjuta
pengetahuan. Persahabatan hanya membutuhkan rasa tulus untuk mau
memberi. Persahabatan menghasilkan kata kata bijak untuk sahabat yang
menenangkan jiwa.<br />
Ketika seseorang sedih, kamu <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-galau-lucu/">memberikan penghiburan</a>.
Ketika ia sendirian, kamu menjadi seorang pendengar yang baik.
Persahabatan mulai dari ketulusan untuk bersahabat. Tanpa hal ini,
mustahil untukmu memiliki sahabat.<br />
<h2>
5. Saran Khalil Gibran Tentang Persahabatan</h2>
<blockquote>
Persahabatan bukanlah sebuah kesempatan, tapi merupakan tanggung jawab yang manis<cite>Khalil Gibran</cite></blockquote>
Ketika
banyak orang mengatakan persahabatan adalah kesempatan, kata kata bijak
persahabatan ini menyebutnya sebagai tanggung jawab. Persahabatan
adalah tanggung jawab untuk kamu.<br />
Kamu bertanggung jawab untuk
selalu menjaga sahabatmu dan menopangnya, apapun situasinya. Kamu
bertanggungjawab menghapus dukanya dan mendukung suka citanya. <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-mutiara-kehidupan/">Kata kata mutiara</a> persahabatan ini memberikan inspirasi bagi kamu.<br />
<h2>
6. Oscar Wilde & Sahabat Sejati</h2>
<img alt="Kumpulan Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan - Oscar Wilde" height="360" src="https://www.kutipkata.com/_images/03-Kompilasi/03-kumpulan-kata-kata-bijak-persahabatan_03-oscar-wilde_640x360-min.jpg" width="640" /><br />
<blockquote>
Sahabat sesungguhnya menusukmu dari depan<cite>Oscar Wilde</cite></blockquote>
Bagaimana
menilai sahabat? Kutipan kata kata bijak persahabatan ini jawabannya!
Sahabat sejati selalu berani menegurmu tepat di wajahmu ketika kamu
salah. Sahabat sejati menghilangkan kepura-puraan.<br />
Mereka tidak
akan pura pura setuju ketika tindakanmu salah. Mereka akan mengatakan
tidak setuju ketika mereka tidak setuju, dan setuju ketika memang
pendapatmu adalah yang terbaik.<br />
<h2>
7. Ernest Hemingway Tentang Rasa Percaya</h2>
<blockquote>
Hal yang paling baik untuk mengetahui bahwa anda bisa mempercayai orang adalah mencoba mempercayai mereka<cite>Ernest Hemingway</cite></blockquote>
Persahabatan
tidak akan muncul tanpa adanya kepercayaan. Ketika kamu dan sahabat
mulai yakin satu sama lain, persahabatan akan tentu terjalin.
Persahabatan itu semakin kuat seiring rasa percaya yang semakin kuat.<br />
Kamu
tidak akan pernah tahu rasanya percaya kepada orang lain sebelum kamu
pernah percaya orang lain. Percayalah, akan ada perasaan lega dan
bahagia ketika kamu bisa percaya kepada orang lain dan orang lain
percaya padamu.<br />
<h2>
8. Henry David Thoreau Terhadap Sahabatnya</h2>
<blockquote>
Hal yang bisa selalu aku lakukan untuk sahabatku adalah menjadi sahabatnya<cite>Henry David Thoreau</cite></blockquote>
Kutipan
kata kata bijak persahabatan ini bisa jadi inspirasi untukmu. Sahabatmu
hanya ingin kamu menjadi sahabatnya. Dia hanya ingin kamu mengusap air
matanya ketika sedih, <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-lucu-banget/">tertawa bersama karena sebuah lelucon</a>, dan bepergian bersama.<br />
Ketika
hal tersebut kamu sudah kamu lakukan, disitulah kamu menjadi sahabat
yang sejati untuk sahabatmu. Sampaikan kata kata bijak untuk sahabat
kamu supaya dia tahu bahwa kamu beruntung memilikinya!<br />
<h2>
9. Oprah Winfrey Bicara Soal Sahabat Sesungguhnya</h2>
<blockquote>
Banyak
orang ingin pergi denganmu dalam sebuah limo, tapi yang kau inginkan
adalah seseorang yang mau pergi dengan bis ketika limo anda rusak<cite>Oprah Winfrey</cite></blockquote>
Akan
ada banyak orang yang berbahagia denganmu saat kesuksesan datang, tapi
hanya sedikit orang yang mengobati lukamu ketika kamu jatuh. Itulah yang
dikatakan oleh kutipan kata kata bijak persahabatan ini.<br />
Persahabatan
tidak mengenal situasi apapun. Senang, sedih, gundah, cemas, ataupun
takut dihadapi bersama. Ketika sahabat sukses, kamu akan merasa bangga
telah menjadi bagian dari kesuksesannya.<br />
<h2>
10. Sahabat dan Kegelapan, Kata Hellen Keller</h2>
<blockquote>
Berjalan dengan seorang sahabat di kegelapan lebih baik daripada berjalan sendirian dalam terang<cite>Hellen Keller</cite></blockquote>
Ketika
hidup terasa menakutkan dan menantang untuk dijalani, sahabat menjadi
pegangan utama untukmu. Pendapat dari seorang sahabat ibarat lampu
penerang di kala kegelapan.<br />
Sahabat akan memberikan kata kata
persahabatan yang menguatkanmu. Ia akan menuntunmu kepada jalan keluar
dan menjauhkan kamu dari kegelapan. Itulah mengapa lebih baik terjatuh
dengan seorang sahabat daripada sukses sendirian.<br />
<h2>
11. William Shakespeare Tentang Sahabat Setia</h2>
<img alt="Kumpulan Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan - William Shakespeare" height="360" src="https://www.kutipkata.com/_images/03-Kompilasi/03-kumpulan-kata-kata-bijak-persahabatan_04-william-shakespeare_640x360-min.jpg" width="640" /><br />
<blockquote>
Kata kata itu mudah dibuat, seperti angin; Sahabat yang setia sulit untuk ditemukan<cite>William Shakespeare</cite></blockquote>
Ya,
sahabat yang setia memang sulit ditemukan. Sahabat yang tidak hanya
tertawa ketika kamu tertawa, tapi mereka yang menitikkan air matanya
untuk <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-sedih-kecewa/">kesedihan kamu</a>. Tak peduli apa posisimu, mereka disana untuk menopangmu<br />
Jika
saat ini kamu menemukan salah satunya, jagalah mereka dan jangan
lepaskan. Merekalah orang-orang pilihan yang diberikan Tuhan untuk
menjaga dan menghiburmu di dunia ini dengan kata kata bijaknya.<br />
<h2>
12. Martin Luther King, Jr Mendapatkan Sahabat Dengan Cinta</h2>
<blockquote>
Cinta adalah satu-satunya kekuatan yang mampu merubah seorang musuh menjadi seorang sahabat<cite>Martin Luther King, Jr</cite></blockquote>
Seperti
halnya cinta, sahabat akan muncul dari pihak yang tidak terduga.
Musuhmu saat ini bisa saja menjadi sahabatmu di lain hari. Ketika
kebencian meliputi, dialah musuhmu. Ketika cinta bernaung, mereka
menjadi sahabatmu.<br />
Jika kamu memilih untuk bergerak berdasarkan
cinta, dia akan jadi teman untukmu. Cinta yang mampu melunturkan
kebencian dan mendatangkan sahabat untukmu.<br />
<h2>
13. C. S. Lewis Bertahan Karena Persahabatan</h2>
<blockquote>
Persahabatan
itu tidak perlu, seperti filsafat, seperti seni… Itu tidak memiliki
nilai untuk bertahan hidup; Melainkan itu adalah satu dari beberapa hal
yang memberikan nilai untuk bertahan<cite>C. S. Lewis</cite></blockquote>
Persahabatan
memberikan makna hidup untuk seseorang. Ketika seseorang memiliki
sahabat, ia akan berusaha mengisi hidup ini dengan indahnya
persahabatan.<br />
Hidup tidak akan pernah menjatuhkan dia karena ada
sahabat sahabat terbaik yang menopang dirinya. Persahabatan akan
memberikan kata kata persahababatan yang bermakna untuk bertahan hidup.<br />
<h2>
14. Dalai Lama & Arti Sahabat</h2>
<blockquote>
Sahabat
lama pergi, Sahabat baru berdatangan. Sama seperti hari-hari biasanya.
Hari yang lama pergi, hari yang bari datang. Yang terpenting dari semua
itu adalah bagaimana membuatnya berarti: seorang sahabat yang berarti –
atau sebuah hari yang berarti<cite>Dalai Lama</cite></blockquote>
Dengan
siapapun kamu berteman saat ini, percayalah dia adalah orang terbaik di
dunia yang menghangatkan hatimu dengan persahabatan. Buatlah setiap
waktu yang kalian punya berarti.<br />
Kamu tidak pernah tahu kapan lagi
kalian bertemu dan kapan kalian akan terus bersama. Buatlah setiap
detik kerinduan akan sahabat terbayar dengan setiap menit yang kalian
jadikan berarti.<br />
<h2>
15. Anais Nin Tahu Dunia Berawal Dari Persahabatan</h2>
<blockquote>
Seorang
teman mewakili dunia ini untuk kita, dunia tidak akan lahir sampai
mereka muncul. Dan hanya dengan pertemuan itu, dunia itu lahir<cite>Anais Nin</cite></blockquote>
Seperti
kata kata bijak persahabatan ini, sahabat yang memperkenalkan dunia
sebenarnya kepadamu. Kamu tidak akan pernah tahu rasanya dicintai hingga
sahabatmu datang untuk mencintai.<br />
Kamu tidak akan pernah tahu
bagaimana kesedihan itu indah sampai sahabatmu menghapus air mata di
pipimu. Pertemuan dengan sahabat itulah yang membuatmu mengerti apa arti
hidupmu bagi dunia ini.<br />
<h2>
16. Ellen Hubbard: Sahabat mencintai dalam segala situasi</h2>
<img alt="kata kata bijak persahabatan ellen hubbard" height="340" src="https://www.kutipkata.com/_images/03-Kompilasi/03-kata-kata-bijak-05-kata-kata-bijak-ellen-hubbard-640x360-min.png" width="640" /><br />
<blockquote>
Seorang sahabat adalah seseorang yang mengetahui tentang dirimu dan tetap mencintaimu<cite>Ellen Hubbard</cite></blockquote>
Sahabat
yang baik tidak pernah melihat bagaimana penampilan atau masa lalu
sahabatnya. Sahabat sejati hanya mengerti bahwa persahabatan dimulai
untuk saling mengerti.<br />
Mengerti bahwa masa lalu sahabatmu bukanlah
cerminan dia saat ini. Mengerti bahwa penampilan hanyalah sampul luar
yang tidak menentukan apapun. Mengerti bahwa mengetahui semua hal itu
membuat kamu semakin mencintai sahabatmu.<br />
<h2>
17. Alice Walker & Dukungan Sahabat</h2>
<blockquote>
Tidak ada seorang sahabatpun yang menginginkan anda diam dan menghambat anda untuk berkembang<cite>Alice Walker</cite></blockquote>
Sahabat sesungguhnya adalah mereka yang <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-motivasi-hidup/">mengispirasi dan memotivasi</a>.
Sahabat sesungguhnya tidak pernah mengecewakan dan menjatuhkan. Sepahit
apapun kenyataan hidupmu, motivasi dari seorang sahabat akan sangat
menginspirasi untuk maju.<br />
Ketika hambatan datang, dialah yang
pertama mengatakan kepadamu ‘kamu harus kalahkan itu’ dan bahagia ketika
kamu berhasil melakukannya. Utarakanlah kata kata persahabatan ini
untuk ungkapan bahagiamu terhadapnya!<br />
<h2>
18. Virginia Woolf: Aku pergi kepada sahabatku</h2>
<blockquote>
Beberapa orang pergi ke pendeta, yang lain melampiaskan dengan puisi, tapi aku pergi kepada sahabatku<cite>Virginia Woolf</cite></blockquote>
Kamu
pasti sering melakukan apa yang tertulis di kata kata bijak
persahabatan ini. Kamu akan lebih ingin bercerita tentang hidupmu kepada
sahabatmu. Ketika semua perasaan bercampur aduk, sahabatlah yang mampu
meluruskannya.<br />
Sahabat yang menuntunmu pulang saat kamu tersesat. Sahabat pula yang menyakinkanmu ketika energimu untuk bertahan hidup habis.<br />
<h2>
19. O. Henry: Persahabatan itu takdir</h2>
<blockquote>
Tidak ada persahabatan yang merupakan sebuah kecelakaan<cite>O. Henry</cite></blockquote>
Kamu
harus mempercayai bahwa persahabatan itu takdir. Sahabat adalah teman
hidup yang terbaik yang sudah digariskan Tuhan untukmu. Tidak ada
satupun yang merupakan hal yang tidak disengaja.<br />
Persahabatan
adalah rencana Tuhan yang paling manis dan tanggungjawab terindah untuk
kamu lakukan. Sahabat adalah berlian dunia yang harus kamu jaga selalu.<br />
<h2>
20. Jane Austen: Persahabatan itu obat sakit hati</h2>
<blockquote>
Persahabatan pada dasarnya merupakan obat penyembuh paling mujarab dari pedihnya dikecewakan cinta<cite>Jane Austen</cite></blockquote>
Untuk
kamu yang sedang patah hati, jangan pendam sakit itu sendiri.
Utarakanlah semua rasa sakit, cemas, gundah, dan kesedihan itu kepada
sahabatmu.<br />
Telinga mereka sudah siap untuk mendengar keluh kesahmu
dan tangan mereka tidak akan pernah kaku untuk membasuh lukamu.
Merekalah obat sesungguhnya dari luka hati yang paling dalam.<br />
<h2>
21. Euriprides: Sahabat dalam masalah</h2>
<img alt="Kumpulan Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan - Euriprides" height="360" src="https://www.kutipkata.com/_images/03-Kompilasi/03-kutipan-kata-kata-bijak-persahabatan_06-euriprides_640x360-min.jpg" width="640" /><br />
<blockquote>
Sahabat menunjukkan cintanya disaat ada masalah, bukan saat yang bahagia<cite>Euriprides</cite></blockquote>
Tentu,
kutipan kata kata bijak persahabatan ini menunjukkan sesuatu. Sahabat
yang baik menunjukkan cintanya saat kamu berada dalam masalah. Mereka
tidak meninggalkanmu dan membiarkanmu menghadapi masalah sendiri.<br />
Seberat
apapun masalahmu, dia tetap datang membantu dan menyemangatimu untuk
terus maju. Jika ia setia ketika masalah datang padamu, jika akan setia
ketika kamu berbahagia.<br />
<h2>
22. Richard Bach & Jarak</h2>
<blockquote>
Bisakah
jarak benar-benar memisahkanmu dari teman… Jika kamu ingin bersama
dengan seseorang yang kamu sayang, bukankah kamu sudah disana?<cite>Richard Bach</cite></blockquote>
Dalam
sebuah persahabatan, jarak bukanlah halangan. Ketika kamu dan sahabat
sudah sibuk dengan hal masing-masing, persahabatan itu masih ada.
Persahabatan itu ada dalam hati kalian masing-masing.<br />
Persahabatan
itu akan tetap hidup ketika masing-masing individu masih menganggap
persahabatan itu ada. Kata kata bijak persahabatan ini meyakinkan kita
bahwa tidak ada jarak yang benar-benar memisahkan seorang sahabat.<br />
<h2>
23. Henry Ford: Sahabat bawa yang terbaik</h2>
<blockquote>
Sahabatku adalah seseorang yang menjadikan aku yang terbaik<cite>Henry Ford</cite></blockquote>
Persahabatan
muncul dari sebuah proses pengenalan satu dengan yang lainnya.
Persahabatan muncul atas dasar niat tulus untuk saling berkembang. Kamu
mengerti sahabatmu dan sahabatmu mengerti dirimu.<br />
Dalam situasi
ini, sahabatmu akan memberikan inspirasi padamu untuk menjadi yang
terbaik dan berkembang untuk jadi yang terbaik. Sahabat terbaik
mengerti bagaimana membantu sahabatnya jadi lebih baik.<br />
<h2>
24. Henry David Thoreau & Bahasa Persahabatan</h2>
<blockquote>
Bahasa persahabatan tidak tercermin dalam kata kata, melainkan dengan arti<cite>Henry David Thoreau</cite></blockquote>
Kamu
tidak akan bisa mengatakan arti persahabatan sesungguhnya. Kamu tidak
akan mampu mengatakan dengan jelas bagaimana rasanya memiliki sahabat.
Tidak ada kata kata persahabatan yang mampu untuk menggambarkannya.<br />
Persahabatan
tidak mampu dikatakan dengan kata kata, tapi persahabatan itu sendiri
yang memberi arti bagi hidup. Kamu bisa merasakan persahabatan karena
sahabatmu memberikan arti padamu. Nikmatnya hanya bisa kamu rasa di
hatimu.<br />
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25. Jim Morrison: Sahabat & Kebebasan</h2>
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Seorang sahabat adalah seseorang yang memberikanmu kebebasan sepenuhnya pada dirimu<cite>Jim Morrison</cite></blockquote>
Seorang
sahabat adalah dia yang tahu bagaimana dirimu berkembang. Ia tidak akan
mengatur apalagi memberikan tekanan pada hidupmu. Ia akan membiarkan
kamu mengeskplorasi dirimu sepenuhnya.<br />
Ketika kamu berkembang, ia
yang pertama tersenyum dengan hal itu. Persahabatan dilakukan dengan
kebebasan, bukan dengan tekanan. Ketika persahabatan dilakukan atas
dasar ketakukan, kamu perlu lihat lagi persahabatan itu.<br />
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26. William Blake: Manusia punya persahabatan</h2>
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Burung punya sangkar, laba laba punya jaring, manusia punya persahabatan<cite>William Blake</cite></blockquote>
Kamu
bisa mengerti betapa berartinya persahabatan bagi manusia. Persahabatan
adalah harta yang paling utama bagi manusia dalam hidup. Percayalah
ketika kamu merasakan indahnya persahabatan, disitulah hidupmu bermula.<br />
Persahabatan
menunjukkan arti hidup bahwa hidup harus dihadapi berkelompok. Kata
kata mutiara persahabatan ini menginspirasimu bahwa persahabatan itulah
harta yang terbaik yang akan kamu jaga selalu.<br />
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27. Confucius & Ketidakpercayaan</h2>
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Lebih memalukan tidak mempercayai sahabat kita daripada ditipu oleh mereka<cite>Confucius</cite></blockquote>
Persahabatan
dimulai ketika kamu mau mempercayai seseorang sebagai sahabat. Kamu
tidak akan pernah menjadikan seseorang sebagai sahabat jika tidak
percaya. Persahabatan macam apa yang muncul atas dasar ketidakpercayaan?<br />
Oleh
karena itu, apapun alasannya, percayalah pada sahabat anda seperti kamu
mempercayai kaki kamu untuk melangkah. Percayalah pada dirinya seakan
kamu tidak punya alasan untuk tidak mempercayainya.<br />
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28. Chanakya: Bersahabat berarti tertarik</h2>
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Ada
semacam ketertarikan satu sama lain di setiap persahabatan. Tidak ada
persahabatan tanpa ketertarikan. Itu adalah kebenaran yang pahit<cite>Chanakya</cite></blockquote>
Selain
kepercayaan, persahabatan dimulai ketika kamu tertarik untuk menjadi
sahabat. Seseorang menjadi sahabatmu ketika ia mampu menginspirasimu
dengan sejuta kata kata bijak yang membuatmu percaya <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-indah-novel/">hidup itu indah</a>.<br />
Tidak
akan mungkin persahabatan terjalin ketika dua orang tidak pernah
menyetujui untuk bersahabat. Persahabatan tidak akan terjalin ketika 2
hati saling membenci. Persahabatan terjadi ketika 2 hati dan 2 pikiran
bersatu untuk saling setuju.<br />
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29. Plutarch: Sahabat tidak selalu setuju</h2>
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Aku
tidak perlu seorang teman yang berubah waktu aku berubah dan setuju
ketika aku setuju; Bayanganku melakukan hal itu lebih baik<cite>Plutarch</cite></blockquote>
Kamu
harus tahu bahwa sahabat bukanlah bayangan. Bayangan selalu mengikuti
kemana seseorang bergerak. Jadilah dirimu sendiri ketika kamu
bersahabat. Menginspirasi boleh, tapi jangan mengcopy sekaligus apa yang
menjadi karakter sahabatmu.<br />
Perbedaan merupakan keindahan dari
sebuah persahabatan. Dengan perbedaan itu, toleransi tercipta dan
persahabatan akan berdiri tegak dengan hebatnya. Dengan perbedaan, kata
kata mutiara persahabatan terasa manis didengar.<br />
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30. Muhammad Ali: Persahabatan adalah pelajaran sesungguhnya</h2>
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Persahabatan
… bukanlah sesuatu yang kamu pelajari di sekolah. Tapi, jika kamu tidak
belajar mengenai arti persahabatan, kamu tidak akan mempelajari apapun<cite>Muhammad Ali</cite></blockquote>
Terakhir,
persahabatan adalah pelajaran sesungguhnya. Persahbatan tidak diajarkan
di sekolah manapun, tapi hidup yang mengajarkannya. Persahabatan
membuat kamu mengerti bahwa semua manusia tercipta dengan banyak
keragaman.<br />
Persahabatan membuat kamu mengerti bahwa <a href="https://www.kutipkata.com/kata-kata-cinta-romantis/">dicintai dan mencintai</a>
adalah hal yang membuat keselarasan dalam hidup. Dan kamu juga akan
mengerti bahwa persahabatan adalah alasan utama kamu bertahan hingga
saat ini.<br />
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Kata Kata Bijak Persahabatan</h2>
Persahabatan adalah
harta yang terindah yang pernah Tuhan berikan kepadamu. Ketika Tuhan
mengirimkan seorang sahabat untuk bersanding denganmu, artinya Tuhan
tidak ingin kamu sendiri. <a href="https://tekno.tempo.co/read/news/2016/05/02/061767765/penelitian-telepon-manusia-hanya-punya-5-orang-sahabat">Jagalah persahabatan itu</a> dan buatlah berarti.<br />
Ungkapkanlah
kebaikan persahabatan dengan kumpulan kata kata bijak persahabatan dan
yakinlah sahabatmu mencintaimu. Semoga kumpulan kata kata bijak
persahabatan ini mampu menginspirasi anda.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-27870394198853296212016-10-22T22:58:00.002-07:002016-10-22T22:58:52.270-07:00Two Beggars in Rome & British HumourTwo Beggars in Rome<br />
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Two Beggars in Rome - One Catholic - One Jew- are sitting side by side on a street in Rome . One has a cross in front of him; the other one the Star of David. Many people go by and look at both beggars, but only put money into the hat of the beggar sitting behind the cross.<br />
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A priest comes by, stops and watches throngs of people giving money to the beggar behind the cross, but none give to the beggar behind the Star of David.<br />
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Finally, the priest goes over to the beggar behind the Star of David and says, 'My poor fellow, don't you understand? This is a Catholic country; this city is the seat of Catholicism. People aren't going to give money if you sit there with a Star of David in front of you, especially when you're sitting beside a beggar who has a cross. Infact, they would probably give to him just out of spite.'<br />
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The beggar behind the Star of David listened to the priest, turned to the other beggar with the cross and said: 'Moishe, look who's trying to teach the Goldstein brothers about marketing!!<br />
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British Humour<br />
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A big earthquake with the strength of 8.1 on the Richter scale has hit Pakistan.<br />
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Two million Pakistanis have died and over a million are injured.<br />
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The country is totally ruined and the government doesn't know where to start with providing help to rebuild.<br />
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The rest of the world is in shock.<br />
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The USA is sending troops to help.<br />
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Saudi Arabia is sending oil.<br />
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Latin American countries are sending supplies.<br />
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New Zealand is sending sheep, cattle and food crops.<br />
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The Asian countries are sending labor to assist in rebuilding<br />
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infrastructure.<br />
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Australia is sending medical teams and supplies.<br />
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Britain, not to be outdone, is sending two million replacement<br />
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Pakistanis.<br />
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God Bless British generosity.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-50983365253388731342016-10-22T22:58:00.001-07:002016-10-22T22:58:02.722-07:00There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship<img alt="There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship. - Thomas Aquinas" class=" bqPhotoFullDesktop" src="http://www.brainyquote.com/photos/t/thomasaquinas163328.jpg" />Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-4832589624645451122010-06-19T23:21:00.000-07:002010-06-19T23:23:56.986-07:00FRIENDSHIP AMONG NATIONS (FAN)<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF0czmyGj2ixPNf7o-Vls3fPdAGTqee5JkH472k0Z-6T6brqnmaP5Lpr4uEzDALzrWDIxx8-eLFxNKKIyZNhaxPI1HNWiZ-0gbVN4WuViFFJJL9Vrw51-gztTbKdhY_aGayvtPaC58HVCv/s1600/30875_1377250066788_1097950638_30997149_322879_n.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 291px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF0czmyGj2ixPNf7o-Vls3fPdAGTqee5JkH472k0Z-6T6brqnmaP5Lpr4uEzDALzrWDIxx8-eLFxNKKIyZNhaxPI1HNWiZ-0gbVN4WuViFFJJL9Vrw51-gztTbKdhY_aGayvtPaC58HVCv/s400/30875_1377250066788_1097950638_30997149_322879_n.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5484737757820453058" /></a><br />FRIENDSHIP AMONG NATIONS (FAN)<br /><br />Pertama didirikan pada tahun 1985 oleh Dave Broos di kota Bandung untuk mengakomodasikan hobi bersahabat pena yang sangat populer saat itu. Di mana klub ini dimulai olehnya dengan beberapa teman sahabat pena di Indonesia dan Belanda hingga lalu berkembang menjadi sebuah klub sahpen dengan ribuan anggota dan berasal dari ratusan negara yang ada di dunia.<br />Salah satu misi dari Friendship Among Nations (FAN), saat itu adalah bukan saja menjadikan klub sah-pen ini sebagai ajang persahabatan atau ada pula yang menjadikannya sebagai tempat mencari jodoh, tetapi juga sebagai media perdamaian antar bangsa, negara, agama, jenjang sosial maupun pendidikan. FAN berupaya menjembatani perbedaan yang ada dengan saling menghargai dan mencintai perbedaan sebagai sebuah maha karya dari Sang Pencipta. Bisa dibayangkan bila seisi bumi semua orang nampak seragam baik cara pandangnya, penampilannya, berbicaranya dan seterusnya…betapa membosankannya dunia ini.<br />Setelah hampir satu dasawarsa FAN mati suri akibat kesibukan pendiri maupun para aktivis/relawan masing-masing. Kini FAN kembali dengan wajah baru untuk menyuarakan kembali misi persahabatan dan perdamaian antar bangsa. Pada tahun 2010 ini, kami telah mengadakan pertemuan kembali bersama di Food Court Pelangi di Jl. Lengkong Kecil, Bandung. Pertemuan yang non formil dihadiri oleh para “gegedug” FAN; Dave Broos, Vicktor Widjaya dan Dewi Sulistiani (sedang Jujun dan Yanti S berhalangan hadir sebab ada pelatihan/tugas dari instansi masing-masing). Sedang rekan-rekan yang lain masih kami cari kembali. Kami harus mengucapkan terimakasih pada Facebook, yang mempertemukan kami kembali setelah lama sekali tak bersua. Ada sedikit pergeseran dari dunia “pena” ke dunia “maya”. <br />Kami membicarakan kembali apa yang dapat kami lakukan secara korporat untuk membawa misi persahabatan, perdamaian dan menjadi berkah bagi setiap kota yang kami tinggali dengan membuka layanan sosial, pendidikan, usaha mikro, gerakan Go Green, gerakan anti narkoba, alkohol & tembakau, gerakan Pro Life, against trafficking, dll.<br />Kami pun tengah membicarakan pengembangan FAN dengan membuat situs jejaring sosial dan majalah atau buletin, baik secara fisik maupun e-book. <br />Pada perkembangannya ke masa yang akan datang apakah yang akan terjadi, kami belum tahu. Kami mau mengalir di bawah pimpinan Sang Pencipta untuk tidak menyia-nyiakan hidup kami selama hayat masih ada dalam tubuh kami untuk membuat dunia ini menjadi lebih baik melalui perdamaian, persahabatan dan melakukan “the good fight” menegakkan kebaikan dan keadilan di tengah masyarakat yang terkontaminasi dengan keserakahan dan keegoisan. <br />Hal yang pasti adalah kami mau pertama-tama hidup dalam perdamaian dan saling mengasihi dan menerima satu sama lain walaupun kami berbeda. Memandang perbedaan sebagai sesuatu yang indah dan maha karya Sang Pencipta.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br />KESEDIHANKU MELIHAT BANGSAKU<br />Kesedihan melihat bangsa ini diporakporandakan oleh segelintir orang yang mementingkan dirinya atau kelompoknya saja hingga bangsa yang dahulu dikenal sebagai bangsa yang ramah kini menjadi bangsa yang pemarah. Ketika agama satu mulai beradu dengan agama yang lain, ketika suku yang satu mulai memerangi suku yang lain, ketika kebencian terhadap etnis atau bangsa tertentu muncul, ketika orang miskin hidup bertambah susah, anak-anak kurang gizi, anak-anak putus sekolah atau kuliah, meningkatnya pengangguran, perusakan lingkungan (alam) secara besar-besaran, pembodohan masyarakat bawah terjadi…..mau kemana bangsa ini?? Dimanakah para pejuang keadilan? Dimanakah orang yang tulus ingin membangun bangsa ini? Apakah semua hanya memikirkan keuntungan diri sendiri dan keluarganya, sudah sekorup itukah bangsa ini?<br />Saya percaya masih ada orang-orang yang memiliki integritas dalam bangsa ini untuk kembali membangun bangsa ini menuju Indonesia yang damai dan sejahtera. Dan itu harus dimulai dari diri kita sendiri dan keluarga kita.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-34404617628656781922010-06-16T00:02:00.000-07:002010-06-16T00:04:54.437-07:00King of The Castle<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9pea0Kjre6utnH41p5XuXQf2zX28Fku18rWcJ4Rgdvu85RtoCfvQ8cnWcciarRm6sKzd42RdKoikz-5xdsphZ6nnLH9NzAc3p8jdnmFnT1VatmqVsrrsxla8NBgAkuZPHKK1_7h-fcEAx/s1600/dad_king_of_the_castle_tshirt-p235155028743703967trlf_400.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9pea0Kjre6utnH41p5XuXQf2zX28Fku18rWcJ4Rgdvu85RtoCfvQ8cnWcciarRm6sKzd42RdKoikz-5xdsphZ6nnLH9NzAc3p8jdnmFnT1VatmqVsrrsxla8NBgAkuZPHKK1_7h-fcEAx/s400/dad_king_of_the_castle_tshirt-p235155028743703967trlf_400.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5483263972523172674" /></a><br /><br /><br /> King of The Castle<br /><br /> In English we have this little rhyme that we used to sing as kids. It went something like this:<br /><br /> I am the king of the castle<br /><br /> and you're the dirty rascal!<br /><br /> On and on we would sing it, standing on the tallest stone or wall we could find. Even as children there was something special about being the king or queen. About being treated with admiration and respect. The day you got married, you took a place of royalty in your home. You became the queen and your husband became the king.<br /><br /> Have you caught yourself wishing that your husband would treat you like a queen? Then how about treating him like the king of his home? Take something really practical. Think about the last time that your husband was not feeling well. Perhaps he was tired. Perhaps he had a cold or maybe he just had a headache. How did you treat him? Did you treat him like a king? Or did you tell him to fetch his own medication and go lie down?<br /><br /> You know we are the ones to have the babies and the Lord has built this ability in us to be able to handle certain things better than men. We handle pain better. We handle the smell of dirty diapers better. But men are different! It is true that if men were the ones to have babies...we would NEVER have to worry about a population problem in the world. Men are strong, but when it comes to being sick, you once again see the child come out that desires to be treated with love and "mothered" a little.<br /><br /> Now if you know all the GMRN teachings and principles, you could preach right back at me. You could say that he should not need anyone but the Lord. You could tell me that he needs to get his faith up. You might even run around looking for curses. Yet while you do all these things, you forget to fulfill your role as the wife in your home and to treat your husband with love and respect. You let him seek the Lord for himself, while you meet his other needs.<br /><br /> Before you start to preach, cook some soup, get an extra blanket, give him a cuddle and ask him how he feels. A little bit of tenderness goes a long way and will get better results than, "You need to have faith...stop moaning...get up and go to work!"<br /><br /> In the book of Esther we see how Vashti was banned from the King's presence because she did not give him the honor he deserved as king. As a result he found a queen that did respect and honor him. A wife that pleased him! Esther was such a queen. Giving her husband the admiration he deserved.<br /><br /> Do you want to be treated like a queen?<br /><br /> Then its time to make YOUR man the King of His Castle!Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-7538700375676485572010-06-11T00:57:00.000-07:002010-06-11T00:58:44.045-07:00Women and The Giving of Gifts<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8qbzGE273dD87bogA2iDCEssDF01jigxvQbKU9UWCGdTHkoAW9u0buMS_szBXqD1J2KA-yK35LNfzwjOL7xDCr4Yq2wAqXlu1UQtbbJpgKDo-Df4NfJboSI4vS8768Aj7_M9d0bJmJw1E/s1600/Top-10-Gifts-Women.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 277px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8qbzGE273dD87bogA2iDCEssDF01jigxvQbKU9UWCGdTHkoAW9u0buMS_szBXqD1J2KA-yK35LNfzwjOL7xDCr4Yq2wAqXlu1UQtbbJpgKDo-Df4NfJboSI4vS8768Aj7_M9d0bJmJw1E/s400/Top-10-Gifts-Women.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5481422448213478130" /></a><br />Women and The Giving of Gifts<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Ezekiel 16:12 And I put a jewel on your forehead, and earrings in your ears, and a beautiful crown upon your head.<br /><br /> 13 Thus were you decked with gold and silver; and your raiment [was of] fine linen, and silk, and embroidered work; you ate fine flour, and honey, and oil: and you were exceeding beautiful, and you did prosper into a kingdom.<br /><br /> 14 And your renown went forth among the heathen for your beauty: for it [was] perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon you, says the Lord GOD. (GMRV)<br /><br /> <br /><br /> If you have children you know that there are three basic things that they love. The first is candy. The second is ice-cream. And the third thing they absolutely love is getting gifts!<br /><br /> <br /><br /> I think that there is a little girl inside every woman that is waiting for candy, ice-cream and gifts, even though her childhood is long past. Men are often not much different, but women in particular have this inner hunger for romance that gift-giving just makes possible.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> But this can become quite a touchy subject. There have been many marital argument about gifts. As a man, just give the wrong gift to your wife and you can get the ‘cold shoulder’ for a week! Why are women so picky? Why is it so hard to please them?<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Well let me help you out a bit with a few secrets that we women share. The joy of a gift for a woman is not in the practicality, the size or even the shape of the gift, but rather the ROMANCE of the gift. When a man gives a woman a gift, that woman is looking for the meaning in the gift.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Now I know if you are a man, that might sound like the most ridiculous thing you ever heard. But never forget this fact: WOMEN DO NOT THINK LIKE MEN!<br /><br /> <br /><br /> So if your wife loves to paint or do crafts, but you give her a vacuum cleaner for her birthday, what message is she going to think you are giving her? This is NOT a very romantic message at all.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> I wish that I could tell you the most perfect gift to give any woman, but amongst flowers, chocolate and jewelry (which are always a good start) each woman is different. They want to know that their man has discovered their secret desires and picked something out just for them! They want the romance and the childish excitement that gift-giving brings.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Finding out your wife’s desires is pretty easy. You can just ASK her! Why not take time this evening and ask your wife this very simple question: <br /><br /> <br /><br /> “What kind of special gifts could I give you as your husband to make you the happiest women in the world? What gifts would you really like to receive from me?”<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Do not be surprised to hear her express desires that you did not know she had! Encourage her to talk about the gifts you have given her in the past and what she thought about them.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> You might come to find that it was not always the expensive gifts that were the most treasured, but the special ones. Are you ready to hear the truth from your wife? I sure hope so, because this is a subject you can both share about and be honest about.<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Talk about the gifts you received that meant the most to you, and also share your disappointments. Not only will you get to know each other better, but gift-giving will turn into something that is fun and enjoyable for you both, instead of an obligation!<br /><br /> <br /><br /> Try it. Sweep your wife off her feet and romance her just like Christ romances us! How does He romance us? By giving us the desires we do not deserve, and by enjoying seeing us receive them. If Jesus loves to give to His bride in this way, then you can become the image of Christ to your wife in gift-giving too!Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-91281623687167251232010-04-27T18:14:00.000-07:002010-04-27T18:16:22.167-07:00Finding Time and Breaking the Rules<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFbTrqrGLZ3WDLqZthdPm0U3trf9faEcA_TzIIjbebuoahpna6BdP18mDeNEhhgSYav-V6MwdzYMMSQiBc_vcLkXwVKmNAEDz-wbzxKmbgfikYg-2bAuB_zYN5FiGcm-smilcuwtVy4n-W/s1600/bird_breaking_the_rules.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFbTrqrGLZ3WDLqZthdPm0U3trf9faEcA_TzIIjbebuoahpna6BdP18mDeNEhhgSYav-V6MwdzYMMSQiBc_vcLkXwVKmNAEDz-wbzxKmbgfikYg-2bAuB_zYN5FiGcm-smilcuwtVy4n-W/s400/bird_breaking_the_rules.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464990945308338530" /></a><br />Finding Time and Breaking the Rules <br /><br /> Esther 4:11 All the servants of the King and the people in the king's provinces know, that if any man or woman comes to the king in the inner court, who has not been summoned, there is a specific law to put him to death. The only exception is when the king holds out his golden scepter to let the person live. But I have not been invited to come to the king for the past thirty days. (GMRV) <br /><br /> Esther 5:1 On the third day of her fast, Esther put on her royal clothes, and appeared in the inner court of the king's house, right in the entrance hall to the kings house: and the king was sitting on his royal throne in the royal house, facing the entrance of the house.<br /> 2 And when the king saw Queen Esther standing in the court, he was pleased to see her: so the king held out to Esther the golden scepter in his hand. And Esther came closer and touched the top of the scepter. (GMRV) <br /><br />Life gets so hectic at times that you do not find time to spend with your spouse as you should.<br /><br />When this happens, be grateful that you did not live during the time of Queen Esther. When her husband got too busy to pay attention to her, she had to take her life into her hands to get his attention. <br /><br />It is likely that he had made time to be with other women. No man can be so busy that he does not desire sex for over 30 days. On the other hand, perhaps he was just so busy with the affairs of running the country, that he had no time to think about his lovely Queen. <br /><br />You might think to yourself, “If I were married to the most beautiful woman in the country, I would want to be with her every night.” But alas, each one of us has the experience of burn out where sometimes you forget that you are married to the most wonderful person in the world. <br /><br />You just get too busy with other things to pay attention to your marriage and the person who shares your life with you. And often when this happens, things start to go wrong that you are not even aware of. <br /><br />What can a woman do when her husband is too busy to notice her any more; when his work seems more important to him than her? She can do what Queen Esther did in the incident described above. <br /><br />Notice firstly that the Queen did not just rush in. She prepared her heart with fasting and prayer. So before you barge in with a wrong attitude, begin firstly to prepare your heart and attitude. <br /><br />Secondly she approached the king in humility, not arrogance. <br /><br />Thirdly she put on her Royal Garb before approaching him. She did not just appear as a sexy woman, to stir his hormones. He had plenty of women who could do that. But she approached him in a way that reminded him who she was. She was The Queen, not just any other woman. <br /><br />And finally, she came with boldness into his presence, expecting him to respond positively. To use a common expression, she “got right in his face.” <br /><br />You can also use this approach if your spouse has been neglecting their part in the marriage. You can step out boldly, yet in love and humility, to remind him or her of who you are and what you are expecting. <br /><br />This is sometimes a dangerous step, because it could lead to another quarrel or marital fight. But perhaps it could make your partner wake up to realize that they have been drifting away and neglecting the marriage. <br /><br />If you approach this right, you might be surprised to find that your spouse was not really aware of what has been happening. They might quickly break out of this and realize that they have neglected you. <br /><br />And when this happens, you might just get the golden scepter, and an offer of half of the kingdom. So don’t sit wallowing and complaining about the state of your marriage. <br /><br />DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-30181755543601031042010-04-21T20:47:00.000-07:002010-04-21T20:52:43.776-07:00Know Your Spouse<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlId36ewx5KBzEm70DwkymYiFuUdAnX5ENMqzECfglUVmBlL2zLq5-gdFQJb8OKgqn1Fxc7Xx9IWr640z7DY16tLYtFBlM83Cbt7IxtDLzLYbavYZZu4VNZ789fyhQG8PLNvaHT5qDdH01/s1600/HowToKnowIfYourSpouseIsCheating.png"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 361px; height: 363px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjlId36ewx5KBzEm70DwkymYiFuUdAnX5ENMqzECfglUVmBlL2zLq5-gdFQJb8OKgqn1Fxc7Xx9IWr640z7DY16tLYtFBlM83Cbt7IxtDLzLYbavYZZu4VNZ789fyhQG8PLNvaHT5qDdH01/s400/HowToKnowIfYourSpouseIsCheating.png" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5462804324997214770" /></a><br />Know Your Spouse <br /><br /> Marriage is the best!<br /> Marriage is great!<br /> Marriage is heavenly!<br /> Now check your mate!<br /><br />This week I want you to take a little time out to have some fun! I remember a program once that was always fun to listen to. It was called ‘Check Your Mate’. Basically it was a game to see who knew their spouse the best. So are you up to it? Do you think you REALLY know your spouse?<br /><br />Well there is only one way to find out! Below are a list of questions that will tell you for sure. Simply type in the answers and forward them to your spouse. The real test will come when they respond and tell you how many you got right and how many you got wrong!<br /><br />So get ready... steady ...GO! <br /><br />Check Your Mate<br /><br />Answer each of these questions and forward them to your spouse for marking. If both of you play this game you are in for some laughs. And who knows, you might learn a few things about your spouse you never did before!<br /><br />1. What is your spouse’s favorite color?<br /><br />2. What is your spouse’s idea of a romantic evening?<br /><br />3. What does your spouse love the most about your body?<br /><br />4. What character traits does your spouse love the most about you?<br /><br />5. Which of your habits does your spouse dislike the most about you?<br /><br />6. What kind of gifts does your spouse like to receive?<br /><br />7. Where does your spouse love to touch you the most during love making?<br /><br />8. What makes your spouse feel attractive about him/herself?<br /><br />9. What is your spouse’s favorite outfit or pair of shoes?<br /><br />10. What are your spouse’s goals for their career or ministry?<br /><br />11. And finally... What is the one thing that you could do, that you know would immediately cheer up your spouse when they are having a bad day?<br /><br />Do not end the game here! When you mark your spouse’s answers, add a few more questions of your own! Or even better, try to think of one thing they do not know about you and tell them about it!<br /><br />The Lord has created something so special between the two of you. As you continue to open your hearts to one another and to the Lord, you will just keep getting closer. Everyone has days when you fall down and things do not go as you planned, but get up and keep going again. Look past the conflicts and take that time to just say, “I love you.” It is amazing how just a bit of love can go a long way.<br /><br />I trust that you have as much fun with this project as I did. I cannot wait to see what your results were. Be sure to let us know your score on the Marriage Message Board! <br /><br />With Love<br />Colette ToachDave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-91056041435969068002010-04-14T18:34:00.000-07:002010-04-14T18:35:39.755-07:00For You My Love<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex7KNvi3UHpEubDn6YBJEMBlDuN_rqjrJsa4aFawvk-xkNAdwMXy9mu-_ucGqWebTF8Bqa5AyttCJcJTAFMPVZE_vknGrX1fXJ8-Llry9wCqAIm2-yTAgSs5Umjs2UhY9abby-SSOb-re/s1600/6260acb009443e6e4971ab2.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 356px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjex7KNvi3UHpEubDn6YBJEMBlDuN_rqjrJsa4aFawvk-xkNAdwMXy9mu-_ucGqWebTF8Bqa5AyttCJcJTAFMPVZE_vknGrX1fXJ8-Llry9wCqAIm2-yTAgSs5Umjs2UhY9abby-SSOb-re/s400/6260acb009443e6e4971ab2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5460171878141377266" /></a><br />For You My Love <br /><br />1 Samuel 18:25 And Saul said, Thus shall you say to David, The king desires not any dowry, but a hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to be avenged of the king's enemies. But Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the Philistines.<br />26 And when his servants told David these words, it pleased David well to be the king's son in law: and the days were not expired.<br />27 Therefore David arose and went, he and his men, and slew of the Philistines two hundred men; and David brought their foreskins, and they gave the full number of them to the king, that he might be the king's son in law. And Saul gave him Michal his daughter to wife.(GMR) <br /><br />Aren’t you glad that these days a man does not have to pay to get his wife? But in the early days and in some cultures still there was a price to be paid if a man wanted to marry a woman. <br /><br />Do you remember how important your wife was to you when you first fell in love with her and desired to marry her? Some men still have to pay the price of asking the father of the bride for permission to marry the daughter. <br /><br />But is it really a price? Most men would risk their lives to win and gain the one that they love. <br /><br />Think back on what it was like before you were married, and how you longed to be with your love. What price would you have paid then? She was the most valuable thing in the world to you. He was the most precious thing you could think of. <br /><br />But each day as you rise up and start the day, do you still feel the same? Each day, as you go through the problems of life and face difficulties, do you still think this? Or do you simply take for granted the fact that you have someone who spends their life with you? <br /><br />What if your spouse were made a better offer than what you are? What if another woman offers herself to your husband in your place? What if another man were to offer himself to your wife in your place? <br /><br />What would you do? Would you consider your spouse valuable enough to fight for, and give up all for? Would you be prepared to pay any price to keep them? <br /><br />And then as you look at yourself, would you consider yourself valuable enough to your spouse that you would never need to be afraid of this? Are you sure that you are of such value that no other person could ever compete with you? <br /><br />Every day marriages come to an end because someone stopped realizing how valuable their spouse was. Marriages end because a husband or wife are no longer valuable to their partner. <br /><br />Perhaps if you were to think back on the price you would have gladly paid, or did pay to get your husband or wife, you will realize how precious they are to you. And then perhaps you will find yourself once again ready to risk your life for the one you love. <br /><br />Could you take in your hands the biggest price you could pay, and hold it out to him or her, saying,<br /><br />“For you my love. You are worth every bit of it”?Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-74074287201542380632010-04-12T20:38:00.000-07:002010-04-12T20:40:02.227-07:00Climbing The Hill Together<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj02JPt35Id5_Nnqq34F6fRSzuqRzV9RxWZ7CTFbSyt_2ug7AGSMI2-vHs1vtzFbqJaY9chtNQistv9K30DrUeePKgmlQcyhh4gC9FiS6r7x01Cqm8P_9wYuLyGUGWuTmL_9ng0E2JV-q_c/s1600/blog+profile+pic.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 220px; height: 165px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj02JPt35Id5_Nnqq34F6fRSzuqRzV9RxWZ7CTFbSyt_2ug7AGSMI2-vHs1vtzFbqJaY9chtNQistv9K30DrUeePKgmlQcyhh4gC9FiS6r7x01Cqm8P_9wYuLyGUGWuTmL_9ng0E2JV-q_c/s400/blog+profile+pic.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5459461738483500722" /></a><br />Climbing The Hill Together<br /><br /> Song of Solomon 2:6 His left hand [is] under my head, and his right hand embraces me.<br /> 7 I charge you, O you daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that you do not stir up, nor awake [my] love, until he pleases.<br /> 8 The voice of my beloved! look, he is coming leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.<br /> 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: look, he stands behind our wall, he looks out at the windows, showing himself through the lattice.<br /> 10 My beloved spoke, and said to me, Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.<br /> 11 For, look, the winter is past, the rain is over [and] gone;<br /> 12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing [of birds] has come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land;<br /> 13 The fig tree puts forth her green figs, and the vines [with] the tender grape give a [good] smell. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.<br /> 14 O my dove, [that is] in the clefts of the rock, in the secret [places] of the stairs, let me see your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. (GMR) <br /><br />The passage above can best be understood if it is interpreted to describe the wonder of the final climax in love making. <br /><br />It begins with the intimacy of holding and touching, and leads finally to the fullness of the sexual experience. <br /><br />Notice especially the consideration that each one gives to the other. Yet how often does this truly happen in your experience? How often do both you and your spouse give each other enough consideration to make sure that both have a fully satisfying experience during love making? <br /><br />If you do, then you will understand some of the symbolism of this passage. The first stage is one in which you embrace and begin to touch each other. The sense of touch is probably the most important of all in love making. <br /><br />But where do you touch your lover to bring them the greatest experience of pleasure? This is something that varies from person to person, and each one has a nervous system that might be different. We all have parts of our body that are more sensitive than others, and they are not always the same for every person. <br /><br />So which parts of your spouse’s body experience the greatest sensation of pleasure when touched? This is something that you should have found out by experimenting a bit. Or were you so keen to get to the orgasm that you did not take the time to touch, fondle and stroke each other? <br /><br />For a man, the sensation of penetration can be so strong, that he needs little else to come to a place of climbing that mountain leading to the final peak of the love making. But for most women it is not quite the same. A woman needs to be touched and stimulated far more then a man, because she is not immediately aroused by the sight of her husband’s body, as he is by hers. <br /><br />But there are no fixed rules. Each one is different, and you should take the time to explore each other’s bodies to create the most wonderful love making experience possible. Often the longer you take to climb that mountain leading to the peak of pleasure of the sexual experience, the greater your final experience will be. <br /><br />For the man it might involve holding back until his wife is fully aroused. But this is not always the case. Sometimes even a man needs some kind of foreplay and build up in order to fully enjoy the experience of love making. <br /><br />So take the time, and if necessary, make the time to be tender with each other, and to touch each other, rather than just rushing in and getting it all over with. It is an investment which really pays off. <br /><br />A woman who is given this consideration more often, is more likely to get excited about making love more often. But if you just rush in to satisfy your needs before considering your wife, then do not get angry when she finds excuses to not make love tonight.<br /><br />The passage above describes some of the feelings that come when love is approached the right way. Touch soon leads to talking, and expressing your love in words, or just emotional sounds. <br /><br />Notice the woman describes the voice of her husband as he is quickly aroused, and he wastes no time on moving into the position for love making. But he is not a selfish man. Instead of satisfying himself immediately, he waits for his wife to catch up. <br /><br />He encourages her with the words, <br /><br />“Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.” <br /><br />He knows that once he has come to that peak, his part will be over, so he holds himself back, and encourages his wife to rise up first and be satisfied ahead of him. He speaks a lot more to her, painting some beautiful pictures to help her relax and come to the orgasm first, so that they can then move into it together. <br /><br />The chapter ends with a lovely description of the woman encouraging her husband as he too comes to that wonderful place that God has created for us to reach in this wonderful experience of love making. The two have become fully one and the experience is so wonderful that you feel it can last all night. <br /><br />Song of Solomon 2:16 My beloved [is]mine, and I [am] his: he feeds among the lilies.<br />17 Until the day breaks, and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be like a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of Bether. (GMR) <br /><br />Would it not be wonderful to experience this every time you make love? It can be possible if you both consider each other, and go about pleasing your partner first instead of satisfying your own desires first. <br /><br />It is indeed true, as the Word says, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-36208671648707949492010-04-08T04:02:00.000-07:002010-04-08T04:03:36.925-07:00Too Sexy For Your Shoes<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqhp6_Uag1gDmohJgWopcal2TzynQ3chYsv7umHaIo-sQSXc3QAKRRuLLa0zcUcqIPSiG-zkuClguzMkbBKHmbcQU06VFt259G2yz4DvigQstLkKyTmOWIvLSZz6Wws-wuU_dFKAywbwsh/s1600/0.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqhp6_Uag1gDmohJgWopcal2TzynQ3chYsv7umHaIo-sQSXc3QAKRRuLLa0zcUcqIPSiG-zkuClguzMkbBKHmbcQU06VFt259G2yz4DvigQstLkKyTmOWIvLSZz6Wws-wuU_dFKAywbwsh/s400/0.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5457720578217672050" /></a><br />Too Sexy For Your Shoes <br /><br />Song of Solomon 7:1 How beautiful are your feet with shoes, O prince's daughter! the joints of your thighs [are] like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman. (GMR) <br /><br />What is it about the body of your spouse that really appeals to you? <br /><br />For many men, it is the sight of the legs of their loved one. There is no doubt about it that a woman’s legs are one of her greatest beauty assets, apart from her breasts. <br /><br />But how can you get your legs to look good so that they will appeal to the man in your life? The answer is simple. <br /><br />SHOES! <br /><br />Why is it that a man can live with a couple of pairs of shoes, whereas a woman usually needs a cupboard full of them? It is because the shoes that a woman wears can enhance the beauty of her legs more than most other things. <br /><br />The way a woman walks is a wonderful sight in the eyes of a man. Songs have even been written about it in the past. Men watch women walk and they are affected by the sight. <br /><br />So what can you do to make yourself more alluring to your husband? <br /><br />You can learn to walk like a woman. And the best way to get this right is to wear shoes that will enhance the way you walk. And the best ones are those with higher heels. <br /><br />If you are not sure what this involves, then just try watching women walk some time. Next time you are in a public place, take time to watch the women walk. And ask yourself, who is looking the most feminine and sexy? <br /><br />If you are not able to detect this yourself, then ask your husband to give you his honest opinion. You relationship should be good enough for you to do this without feeling threatened. Ask him what appeals to him in the way a woman walks. <br /><br />Then watch the men walk and compare it with the way a feminine woman walks. You will see a big difference between the two. <br /><br />When a woman walks, she keeps her feet together and walks in a straight line, while wiggling her hips from side to side. This sight is enough to make any man want to take another look at her. But a man tends to walk with his feet apart, each facing outwards in a jagged line. Definitely not something which carries sex appeal. <br /><br />Consider what shoes do to a woman to enhance her beauty. And consider how different shoes can make her look more royal and feminine. <br /><br />As Solomon looked at the feet and legs of his lover, he saw something that really appealed to him. He saw lovely legs that as she walked caused her hips to wiggle from side to side in a wonderful way. And he remarked about the joints of her thighs. <br /><br />Are you making the effort to walk in a sexy way for the man in your life ladies? Ask your husband to be honest with you. Try giving him a special parade, wearing different shoes, and walking up and down in front of him to see what he really likes the most. <br /><br />If your walk is not that feminine, then try putting a book on your head as you walk to force you to walk like a lady. You will be amazed what an effect this will have on your man. <br /><br />Do you not be surprised if this little exercise leads to a wonderful time in bed. Your husband is likely to become so stirred up by the sight of you walking in an appealing way that he will want to make love to you right away. <br /><br />This is what you want isn’t it? To make the man in your life think you are the loveliest woman in the world? <br /><br />And besides, you might find him suggesting you get some new shoes to wear. So in the end it is definitely to your benefit.<br /><br />Give it a try and see what happens.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-43302935269098292422010-04-04T20:19:00.001-07:002010-04-04T20:20:12.207-07:00Friends Forever<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF82Plem3cO3KxN3ml1erue85OQXJpB1Tg1O5C8VMbVw4b_H61CdEd9LWxYTNHr0qORlWV8qg-R9PXymBK740nqn_AwMUhsZ3ojvbNcdPaWzjt5rfXaAL8mzNm0L3-qMe9t2cGq-nzcexL/s1600/Friends+Forever+(17).jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 307px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjF82Plem3cO3KxN3ml1erue85OQXJpB1Tg1O5C8VMbVw4b_H61CdEd9LWxYTNHr0qORlWV8qg-R9PXymBK740nqn_AwMUhsZ3ojvbNcdPaWzjt5rfXaAL8mzNm0L3-qMe9t2cGq-nzcexL/s400/Friends+Forever+(17).jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5456487968528703698" /></a><br /><br />Friends Forever<br />By Dudley Hall www.sclm.org<br /><br />"This is my commandment that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you." John 15:12-15<br /><br />What is new about the commandment that Jesus gave his disciples/friends? The Old Testament had instructed God's people to love God with their whole being and each other as they loved themselves. That means that the standard of success was determined by the capacity of the individual. Even if he did it, it would be a love limited by the love-capacity of the one loving. This new commandment had a new standard and a new power. It would be the distinctive of the new culture he was creating.<br /><br />Jesus was creating a new group of friends who would become instrumental in spreading his new culture in the whole world. Jesus was probably using the term friends in reference to a covenant relationship, as was familiar to the Jewish way of thinking. In the ancient culture, neighboring nations were either friendly or unfriendly based on whatever agreements defined their relationship. God's friends are those in covenant with him. Those who refuse to relate to him on the basis of covenant are not friends, but adversaries. Jesus is calling the disciples his friends because he has chosen them. It is not because they are by nature friendly. He has explained to them that he has made the relationship with the Father possible so that they get the benefits to the covenant relationship he has with the Father.<br /><br />The benefit he emphasizes is the level of understanding that friends get. Servants only get enough information to obey specific instructions. Even good servants are "instruction-conscious." Friends get the bigger picture. They are given the perspective of Jesus. He has explained to them that all of history is about the Father and the Son. He has shown them that the whole purpose of redemption is to reconcile creation to the Father. Actually he says that he has revealed to them ALL that the Father has revealed to him. That is a lot! They now know how it all works together to accomplish the ultimate purpose of God the Father.<br /><br />Of course, even though he has given them this information, they don't yet fully understand it. It will be after the coming of the Holy Spirit that they will begin to grasp what Jesus has told them. Their lives will be a journey of passionate anticipation as they unpack all that Jesus explained.<br /><br />What about it? Are you enjoying friendship with Jesus? The condition he gave to the original disciples was: "If you do what I command..." He commanded us to believe what he says is true and act like it.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-92144106928558415572010-04-02T19:33:00.000-07:002010-04-02T19:37:53.435-07:00No More Alone<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgs71AeZpT-I0imHfsEVBd3DSSJjo39_W0AY_xFn1Y2CuXFYNdMiBcoUY-qGraCZ-8HjFfKLdHbrdqbIX2USp7AGWY_3epf3SUVHNmMB-xjr-xSn11-3iLvJIpiXhicwOTpdpmx-wK9x7b1/s1600/alone-by-kenny-gulley-jr.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 301px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgs71AeZpT-I0imHfsEVBd3DSSJjo39_W0AY_xFn1Y2CuXFYNdMiBcoUY-qGraCZ-8HjFfKLdHbrdqbIX2USp7AGWY_3epf3SUVHNmMB-xjr-xSn11-3iLvJIpiXhicwOTpdpmx-wK9x7b1/s400/alone-by-kenny-gulley-jr.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5455734554893197058" /></a><br />No More Alone <br /><br /> Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because it is well worth the effort.<br /> 10 For if they fall, the one will lift up their companion: but woe to one that falls alone; for there is no one to help them up.<br /> 11 Also, if two sleep together, then they arouse each other: but how can one become aroused all alone?<br /> 12 And if one is overwhelmed, two can stand together; a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (GMR) <br /><br />Marriage is the cure to the most desperate need that we can have in life – loneliness. <br /><br />Unfortunately many married people take this for granted and have forgotten what it was like to be alone. <br /><br />I am appalled at the number of times I see a husband and wife each living their own life. They each follow their own careers, they go on vacation separately, and sometimes they even sleep in different beds. <br /><br />One wonders why people like this even got married in the first place. <br /><br />Ask any single person who is crying out for a life partner what their greatest need is, and I can guarantee that they will tell you it is loneliness. <br /><br />The Lord made us to be together, and to work together, and enjoy life together. Adam was not a happy man before the Lord made Eve and brought her to him. And even God himself created man for someone to have fellowship with. <br /><br />In the passage above Solomon gives us some of the benefits of having someone else by your side. He starts out by saying that there are great benefits in making the effort to be together. <br /><br />So forget about all the disadvantages of living so closely together with someone, and forget about all the things that irritate you about your spouse. Start looking at some of the wonderful advantages that you have. <br /><br />The first advantage is that there is someone there to help you up when you fall. Often this may not be a literal falling down physically. All of us have times when we are emotionally down, and need someone to lift us up. This is when having someone nearby who cares and will encourage you is most valuable. <br /><br />You will find that most of the time, both of you are not down together, but you take turns. In this way, there is always one who is feeling good and strong, who can lift up the other. <br /><br />Solomon speaks of two people who sleep together affecting each other. Most Bible versions translate this verse as the two warming each other up. However, the original Hebrew word for warm can also refer to sexual arousal or stimulation. So both can apply where the two people in this passage are a husband and a wife. <br /><br />I think this is a good picture. You do not need to lie there shivering alone, because there is someone there to cuddle up to and make you warm. And when you are that close you will also affect each other sexually, and a wonderful time of love making should often be the result of sleeping together. <br /><br />The final benefit that Solomon speaks about is having someone to stand with you when you are under attack. Spiritually this is very important, because we all face attack from the enemy in our lives in serving the Lord. <br /><br />How wonderful it is when you are under attack and feel that you cannot resist any more, to have someone else to stand with you. Someone who will help you in the fight when you are feeling weak and the enemy is stronger than you are. This can apply when you are spiritually under attack, or even when you are feeling sick in your body. <br /><br />Jesus said that where two or three are gathered together in His Name, He would be there also. This adds the third part of what Solomon said. A cord having three strands is very strong, and does not break easily. By standing together as one in the Lord, we form a bond that the enemy can never break. <br /><br />Do you still think about what it was like before you were married? Do you think how nice it would be to be able to do as you please and go where you please? <br /><br />If any of these thoughts have entered your mind, then think again. <br /><br />You need never be lonely again. Besides, who would want to be?Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-28008707221633235402010-03-26T19:45:00.000-07:002010-03-26T19:47:51.418-07:00Smelling Like a Rose<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_IDtGqHptHKN_C4-eAqzdJFMxawOzvcpqOKu9OHWdZW-pxXUQoJnJbC1RzJLGM69ncuM9cgJeAL6rMhnL6TDmdi9cva8XAc5qHLjXb9NdzRCWi_KFlsubvzWzMslRUWNzd5ZFLunnWSJm/s1600/08-roses.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_IDtGqHptHKN_C4-eAqzdJFMxawOzvcpqOKu9OHWdZW-pxXUQoJnJbC1RzJLGM69ncuM9cgJeAL6rMhnL6TDmdi9cva8XAc5qHLjXb9NdzRCWi_KFlsubvzWzMslRUWNzd5ZFLunnWSJm/s400/08-roses.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5453139689844852674" /></a><br />Smelling Like a Rose <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 1:3 Because of the aroma of your aromatic oils you have a reputation for pouring on cologne, therefore the young women love you. (GMR) <br /><br />The Lord did a curious thing when he made man for the first time. He had already created all the animals, but he wanted to show that man was not just another superior animal. <br /><br />If you compare the mating patterns of animals and man, you see some interesting “opposites”. <br /><br />The first is that in animals, the male is the one endowed with great beauty, which is used to attract the female, who is usually very plain and unattractive. Of course in humans it is the other way round. The woman is the one who carries the beauty and the man is always attracted by sight. <br /><br />The other difference between man and the animal kingdom is that in animals, the male is attracted to the female by smell. If you have ever had a female cat or dog as a pet you will know that when the female comes on heat, there is a smell they give out which attracts every male in the vicinity. <br /><br />Now although perfume is usually considered mostly a female thing, the truth of the matter is that women are more attracted to a man by the way he smells than the other way around. In fact, most women wear perfume more for their own benefit than for the man. The smell makes them feel lovely and releases their femininity. <br /><br />The verse above is an interesting one, because it shows that even in the time of Solomon, the aromatic oils that he wore as a cologne gave him a reputation amongst the ladies. <br /><br />Cosmetic companies have discovered and try to major on a discovery that certain ingredients in a male cologne have a powerful effect on human females. They call them pheromones. I used to think that this was just a farce, but there is too much evidence that these substances do have an effect on women. <br /><br />Of course the worldly approach is to advertise these products as a means to men obtaining sexual goals. <br /><br />The sense of smell is a very selective thing, and each person has their own “smell template”. So do not assume that any cologne is acceptable. For both men and women, there is smell that becomes your personal signature or identity to your partner. <br /><br />Do you have a template smell for your husband or wife? Is there a certain cologne or perfume that you love on your partner? You might find that whenever you smell that odor you think of your partner. <br /><br />If you have not both identified your favorite kind of smell, then work on it, and find out which kind of smell your partner prefers. Then learn to use the sense of smell to draw closer to each other. <br /><br />Perfume and cologne are not just something you put on to get rid of the smell of body odor, although that is a good reason to wear them. If you have a problem with smelling bad when you get hot and sweat, then you should always have some handy. <br /><br />But the most wonderful thing about putting on something that smells nice is that it puts your partner in the mood for getting closer to you. And you will be amazed how a little cologne could get your wife to show more interest in sex. <br /><br />Once you have found the smell your spouse likes, why not wear it often, and especially, why not wear it when you come to bed. You might find your love life suddenly becoming more exciting. The smell alone can put each of you in the mood for love. <br /><br />Give it a try and see what happens. Especially you guys. Women are suckers for the right smell. Try it out on your wife.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-35849818968996528492010-03-21T20:52:00.000-07:002010-03-21T20:55:59.496-07:00Beauty and The Breast<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEid-tuB3MnmQhgsJy1qzsN3J1DmebFagqX-HOP5opQ0wNqnatEi0QdHkBOA56E_Onom-Ox69_up5-BdPxAUJyvYAm0SibkWMrScKBQnpZ_himTV_NtfMGTzFbhv4wudSfz244csGsTbVax4/s1600-h/sheryl-crow-20050529-42744.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEid-tuB3MnmQhgsJy1qzsN3J1DmebFagqX-HOP5opQ0wNqnatEi0QdHkBOA56E_Onom-Ox69_up5-BdPxAUJyvYAm0SibkWMrScKBQnpZ_himTV_NtfMGTzFbhv4wudSfz244csGsTbVax4/s400/sheryl-crow-20050529-42744.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5451301756302328290" /></a><br />Beauty and The Breast <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 8:10 I [am] a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour.(GMR) <br /><br /> Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of your youth.<br /> 19 Like a loving deer and a graceful roe; let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and be intoxicated always with her love.(GMR) <br /><br />What is it about a woman’s breasts that make them so special? Is it perhaps the fact that as a baby we found in them comfort, satisfaction and security? It is difficult to tell, but the fact still remains. <br /><br />There is a power in the breasts that affects any man. <br /><br />Why is it then that many women, as they mature and their breasts begin to show, tend to hide them away instead of showing them forth proudly? Is it a sinful thing for a woman to display the assets that the Lord has given to her? <br /><br />Certainly to do so in a way that stirs up lust and wrong desires in a man is not something a Christian woman should be doing. For a married woman this part of her body is reserved especially for her husband. <br /><br />But for the single woman, it is one of her greatest beauty assets, and a shapely figure which displays the curves of her breasts is one thing that will surely draw attention from members of the opposite sex. It is the way God made us. <br /><br />For those who are married, you should never try to put down the importance of the woman’s breasts. And as a wife you should not see your husband’s desire to fondle or caress your breasts as something simple. It is a very profound thing. <br /><br />This act alone, like kissing, can bring a unity between a husband and wife in an almost magical way. If done correctly in tender love, it can be a very satisfying experience which greatly heightens your love making. <br /><br />For a man, the very act of caressing his wife’s breast can bring forth a deep satisfaction that can melt away his cares and make him feel like a little baby again, resting securely in his mother’s arms. It touches a deep need that many other things cannot do. And it can take place without a word being said. <br /><br />For a woman, there can be both a sensation of pleasure if her breasts are sensitive to being stimulated, and a sense of intimacy. When a woman lies in her husbands arms as he caresses her, she can experience a sense of protection and belonging, as she lies securely in his arms. <br /><br />The woman in the Song of Solomon expresses her delight at this experience in the following verses: <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 2:6 His left hand [is] under my head, and his right hand embraces me.(GMR) <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 8:3 His left hand [should be] under my head, and his right hand should embrace me.(GMR) <br /><br />But the passage that expresses clearest the effect that this has on the man, is the one that says:<br /><br />“be intoxicated always with her love.” <br /><br />This wonderful part of love making is better than getting high on alcohol. And it is something that a husband and wife should be enjoying frequently. <br /><br />For many men, the experience is one of having an occasional sip of wine. This will never ever get you to a place of being intoxicated. <br /><br />For many women, it is an uncomfortable experience, because they feel ‘used’ by their husbands instead of loved. <br /><br />Why not learn to flow together in this. Imagine the wonderful experience if you both consider each other. The man is tender and loving as he caresses and fondles the breasts of his wife. The wife allows herself to bask in the pleasure of his touch. <br /><br />As you do this together you will learn to meet each other’s needs in a special way that will draw you closer to each other than ever. <br /><br />How often should you do it? Whenever you desire – as long as you are not in public, or you might draw the wrong attention. (smile)Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-54912329723938248062010-03-17T19:36:00.000-07:002010-03-17T19:38:06.814-07:00The Language of Love<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyxUKV8CWmhvAntG8SfRzuFSEkg2UY6vnXFjz45ALnWMLvNcTEPCzKjai71F0QcxcfzbptmqFc1XL9Oo-XOLm68g17hAGqNDQhvJGY89ptnPMm5Pe-oLJYy-zryplPY4J-3iJ4gQ6HnK05/s1600-h/thing-called-love.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 347px; height: 346px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyxUKV8CWmhvAntG8SfRzuFSEkg2UY6vnXFjz45ALnWMLvNcTEPCzKjai71F0QcxcfzbptmqFc1XL9Oo-XOLm68g17hAGqNDQhvJGY89ptnPMm5Pe-oLJYy-zryplPY4J-3iJ4gQ6HnK05/s400/thing-called-love.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5449797458282800642" /></a><br />The Language of Love<br /><br /> Song of Solomon 1:15 You look so beautiful, my love; you are really lovely; your eyes are like doves.<br /> 16 You are not only handsome, my lover, but you are also charming: and our bed is green like a flourishing garden. (GMR) <br /><br />What do you say to each other during moments of intimacy? <br /><br />When you are in that place of being really close, and nobody else is around? When your feelings are a bit like you are drunk, and you allow yourself to move into a world of fantasy and pleasure, what comes out of your mouth? <br /><br />When you play with a child you often say things in a way that sounds like a child. How often have you seen a grown man acting like a little child in order to entertain his little son or daughter? <br /><br />So how do you talk when you are all alone with the one person who has the power to bring you into a place of pleasure and where you can just “be yourself”? <br /><br />What words do you speak to your lover in the moments of intimacy? Or is it just a matter of satisfying your physical needs and then falling back to go to sleep, like a baby who has just had a good meal at the breast? <br /><br />Then, what are the words that you would love to hear from the mouth of the one your love during those moments of intimacy? Most of us would never dare to demand or suggest what we expect our lover to say to us. But we all secretly hope to hear the words that will make us feel good about ourselves. <br /><br />A lot of the time we say things that we would not say in normal conversation. That is ok. It is a time to whisper ‘sweet nothings’ to the one you adore. It is time to say some of the corny things you might never dare to say at other times. <br /><br />How important are words? They have the power to change our desires and actions. Even the world knows this, and it is a well-known fact that a man will often use the same ‘pick up lines’ to get a woman to respond to him. <br /><br />So what does your woman want to hear that will make her melt into your arms and submit herself willingly to your advances? What will make her think that you are the most wonderful man in the world? <br /><br />And what does your man want to hear that will make him want to go out and conquer the world for you? What will make him think that you are most wonderful woman he has ever known? <br /><br />Solomon gives us many different examples in the Song of Solomon. It is amazing to hear what the loving couple say to each other. Some of the things sound really corny and weird, and perhaps we do not understand because we did not live during that time. <br /><br />But the clearest words of all are to be found in the passage above. Here you see the intimate expressions of love of both the woman and the man to each other.<br /><br />The husband tells his wife that she is beautiful. Every woman needs to hear this. Nobody really feels beautiful in themselves. And yes, it is true that she is not the most beautiful woman in the world. She knows that she is full of flaws. But she wants to be lovely in the eyes of the one she loves. <br /><br />Must you lie to say this to her? Are you lying when you tell her she is the most beautiful woman in the world, when it is clear that there are millions of more beautiful woman all around you? Not at all, because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And to you she should indeed be the most beautiful woman in the world. <br /><br />To you, her voice should be the most beautiful sound you have ever heard. There should be at least one thing about her looks that really impresses you. And if you have to really look you will find something. <br /><br />To Solomon it was clearly the eyes of his lover that impressed him the most. We are not sure what he meant when he said her eyes were like doves. But obviously it was a big compliment to her, because she responded positively back to him. <br /><br />Is it only a woman who needs to be told that she is lovely? No, a man would also like to think that to his wife he is a pretty good looking guy, and that she sees in him things that she does not see in other men. <br /><br />The woman here tells her man that she thinks he is both good looking and charming. And then she makes a reference to their bed being green like a flourishing garden. This was her way of saying, “You are the most wonderful lover.” And this, to a man, can be the highest possible compliment.<br /><br />Every man would like to think that the way he makes love to his wife is special. He would like her to think that he is the most wonderful lover in the world. And of course the truth of the matter is that he is likely nowhere near the image of the great lover. We will see later how you can change this.<br /><br />But there is something in a man that makes him want to do everything in his power to make his woman happy. He will climb the highest mountain if she inspires him to do so. And her words to him can ignite a fire in him that is not easily quenched. <br /><br />Are you unhappy about your love making experience? Has it become boring, and something you just do to satisfy your animal cravings? Or it is a time of pleasure far greater than any other experience in life? <br /><br />If you want to bring things to life, try choosing words of blessing and admiration. Find something in your lover that you really admire and cherish, and tell it to them continually. If you feel a bit awkward doing this that is ok. But if you go ahead and do it anyway, you will soon find that you become more comfortable with it, and you really mean it from your heart. <br /><br />And the end result? You might just find that your spouse gets to enjoy it so much that they want to do it more often. And instead of begging and pleading for your marital rights, you might find yourself drowning in a wonderful pool of daily love making that makes your marriage a true heaven on earth. <br /><br />So what do you say? <br /><br />Try saying some things and see what happens.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-90938026408872248682010-03-15T20:34:00.000-07:002010-03-15T20:36:36.353-07:00The Power of a Kiss<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRpabalhYonUpyX9M1jJo4A0q_kVyGdhFBhkxxmFnE8hEYBE_ulRUWRWVK2z7VGv24ntP-rU-JHWqZAUQ2FvUiZX8kXmzE7vT4vhkFMScE9U-RT947fGkAnfSC6s7N2dXqSaKXL2__QSyx/s1600-h/Kiss.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjRpabalhYonUpyX9M1jJo4A0q_kVyGdhFBhkxxmFnE8hEYBE_ulRUWRWVK2z7VGv24ntP-rU-JHWqZAUQ2FvUiZX8kXmzE7vT4vhkFMScE9U-RT947fGkAnfSC6s7N2dXqSaKXL2__QSyx/s400/Kiss.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5449070483827342434" /></a><br />The Power of a Kiss <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for your love [is] better than wine. (GMR) <br /><br /> Song of Solomon 4:11 Your lips, O [my] bride, drop [as] the honeycomb: honey and milk [are] under your tongue; and the fragrance of your garments [is] like the smell of Lebanon. (GMR)<br /><br />You see them everywhere! <br /><br />The young lovers who walk around holding hands, giving each other a hug, and every now and then stopping to kiss briefly. <br /><br />Perhaps such signs of public affection make you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you have forgotten how wonderful it was to be in love for the first time.<br /><br />The question I would like to ask you now is this: “How often do you and your spouse kiss each day?” <br /><br />Do you give a quick goodbye kiss in the morning? A hello kiss when he gets home in the evening? <br /><br />The second question I would like to ask is: “What kind of kisses do you give each other?” <br /><br />Are they just a quick pressing of the lips together, or is there a greater interaction between you when you join your lips? <br /><br />Does that kiss still excite you and send shivers down your spine? Does it still make you feel like you are floating on the clouds? <br /><br />Solomon told us here in the Song of Solomon that kisses are better than wine. Well what is so good about wine? It is not only the smooth, sweet taste of a good wine that you enjoy, but the wonderful feeling it gives you as the contents get into your blood. <br /><br />When is the last time you got “high” on the kisses of the one you love? Do you spend time expressing your love in this way until you begin to feel light headed? <br /><br />How should you kiss? What is the right way to do it? Do you have to ‘get it right’ to show what a wonderful lover you are? <br /><br />The maiden in the passage above simply says that she loves the kisses of the mouth of her lover. They make her high like wine, only much better. Does this give you the impression of a quick peck on the lips? It sounds to me like a whole lot of kisses repeated over and over until the emotions soar. <br /><br />The man expresses his impressions in more detail. He says that her lips are like honeycomb. Have you ever tried to eat honey from the comb? You have to really suck it out if you do not want to chew the wax. <br /><br />He describes her lips like honeycomb dripping with honey, and then he also describes her tongue as having milk and honey under it. So here it is then folks. Scriptural proof that “French kissing” which involves using the tongue while kissing has been around for some time, and is even in the Bible. <br /><br />It seems the man was also turned on by the smell of his wife’s perfume, because he spoke about the smell of her garments. So if you want to impress your husband, it seems that a good open mouth and nice perfume are all he needs to get high on your love. <br /><br />What does the woman want from her man? Some real tenderness expressed in loving kisses from his mouth. There are some other things also which help, but we will talk about that another time. <br /><br />We will be looking at a lot more from the Song of Solomon, and perhaps you will be stirred to really experience the fullness of the passion and physical love that the Lord has created for you in marriage. <br /><br />But for today, why not try just this one simple little thing: <br /><br />Kiss your spouse more often. There is an old expression that says “actions speak louder than words”. One of the most powerful actions you can carry out to express your love and to tell your husband or wife that you love them, is to be found in this simple act. <br /><br />Get kissing more today. It will change your marriage.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-22627687653594367002010-03-10T00:34:00.000-08:002010-03-10T00:39:13.522-08:00How To Have A Fight<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixCq3LE_uJmitLbq4jrNPSB4Uiur586ZuVL3qu1kgSRTR0P_fF7792kZwA3LAAmqPqs7oPpaIruYzKZzwADvO7AKNHNqN5Azq0asK9WXE9Kl5C0eOxl4C19xXlzV_OU4IBW9Eu9yp_ERg0/s1600-h/men-vs-women-jpg.jpeg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 388px; height: 309px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixCq3LE_uJmitLbq4jrNPSB4Uiur586ZuVL3qu1kgSRTR0P_fF7792kZwA3LAAmqPqs7oPpaIruYzKZzwADvO7AKNHNqN5Azq0asK9WXE9Kl5C0eOxl4C19xXlzV_OU4IBW9Eu9yp_ERg0/s400/men-vs-women-jpg.jpeg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446921808411806002" /></a><br />How To Have A Fight <br /><br /> Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirs up strife: but love covers all sins. (GMR) <br /><br />The Christian marriage is a place where all is peace and everybody is kind and loving, and there are never any fights. <br /><br />Is this correct? <br /><br />Of course not. We are all still full of sin, and working towards perfection. <br /><br />Put two sinful people together in the same home and sooner or later there will be conflict. Put together two sinful people of the opposite sex and cause them to become intimate and close to each other, and you can guarantee there will be fights. <br /><br />Sure, we are all working towards overcoming sin and living lives that are free of conflict. And as we draw closer to the Lord we draw closer to each other, and the conflict starts to ease off. <br /><br />But while you are working towards that goal, what happens when there is a fight? How should you respond if your spouse is not acting like he or she knows the Lord? If you really are the innocent one in this fight, what can you do to stop things from getting out of hand? <br /><br />The wisdom above comes from a man who had hundreds of wives, so he must have had a bit of experience of marital conflict. <br /><br />Each of us is a bit like a pool of water containing some dirt. If you leave the water to settle for a while, the dirt sinks to the bottom and the water becomes clear. <br /><br />If you cover this pool and keep it from being churned up, it may continue to look like a lovely clear pool of water. <br /><br />But if you take a stick and stir up the waters, you might end up with a muddy mess that you do not want to be around. And then it could take days for the water to settle down again and become clear. <br /><br />Marital fights are a bit like that. You can come to a place where the sin within is under control. Where the weaknesses and failures have become hidden from view and are lying dormant. <br /><br />And until they are removed by the power of God, it is perhaps better to just leave them that way. <br /><br />You might think that you need to expose all the sin in your spouse, and it is true that at times this may be necessary. But realize that when you do this, you will cause a mess that could take days to sort itself out. <br /><br />You might win the fight, but you have to live with the effects afterwards. <br /><br />God has a far better way of dealing with things. Instead of stirring up all the dirt in anger and hatred, He suggests you cover it over with love. <br /><br />In other words, instead of looking for all the dirt, why not look instead at all that good clear water there? Let the failures of the past sink to the bottom and remain out of sight. See the person through the eyes of love, since they are part of you now, and you seldom hate yourself. <br /><br />So the next time you have a fight, think carefully about these two pictures. And ask yourself this simple question: <br /><br />Would I like a muddy messy pool in my room right now, or a nice crystal clear pool that looks good and smells good, and makes me happy?Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-30534134561085499182010-03-05T02:35:00.000-08:002010-03-05T02:43:00.804-08:00A Matter Of The Heart<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaen5Ohnm8I5pq1RZEs0MqWMgCigTShxm0_P9fUyyJlpcHz4MeYtTJsaFJmYcITk1J6ibz2ZcXUbBHcNmYp-vS00UWMieOSI_MdNXm1KLGlCvPyQI5X5FQNQJTdgI-ISfeVjGh94mveUxf/s1600-h/matters_of_the_heart_key_to_tween_tshirt-p235911634126845945afiyy_400.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaen5Ohnm8I5pq1RZEs0MqWMgCigTShxm0_P9fUyyJlpcHz4MeYtTJsaFJmYcITk1J6ibz2ZcXUbBHcNmYp-vS00UWMieOSI_MdNXm1KLGlCvPyQI5X5FQNQJTdgI-ISfeVjGh94mveUxf/s400/matters_of_the_heart_key_to_tween_tshirt-p235911634126845945afiyy_400.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5445098408768530914" /></a><br />A Matter Of The Heart<br /><br /> Colossians 3:23 And whatever you do, do [it] from the [psuche] heart, as to the Lord, and not to men; (GMR)<br /><br />How often do you do or say something that you do not truly mean with your heart? <br /><br />Perhaps you told your husband or wife that you loved them, but you really did not mean it. You just said it to make them happy.<br /><br />Well this is a good start. It is better than not saying anything at all. But wouldn’t it be so much better if you could say it and really mean it? <br /><br />The word heart used in the verse above is the same Greek word used for soul. So that means you must involve mind, emotions and will all together to do something from your heart. <br /><br />This means that when you do something by an act of your will, you should be able to have the right thoughts in your mind, and the right feelings and desires in your emotions. <br /><br />When you make love are you thinking about how much you love this man or woman that you are joining with in body? Or are you trying to think of some other person whom you would rather be making love to? <br /><br />Are you just doing this because it feels good, or are you doing it as an expression of all the love that is inside of you? <br /><br />This is what it means to do something from your heart. And it could just involve a change in attitude. <br /><br />How do you change your attitude? By simply choosing what you will keep in your mind.<br /><br />And how do you change your feelings? By keeping the right things in your mind. <br /><br />When you express your love to each other, do you let the fantasies come into your mind like you do when you think about romance? Do you think about how wonderful your spouse is, and how you cannot wait to be with them? <br /><br />Or do you complain because he came home too early from work and messed up your plans? Did she mess up your plans by insisting that you fix that broken door NOW? <br /><br />You did what you spouse wanted you to do. But did you do it from your heart?<br /><br />Think about it the next time you do or say something to the person you chose to spend your life with. Are you doing this from the heart or not? <br /><br />If you have a problem doing this, then why not take Paul’s advice, and do it as though you are doing it for the Lord? Perhaps this will release the faith, hope and love that you need to truly do everything in your marriage as from your heart.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-55098937506440966922010-03-04T02:39:00.000-08:002010-03-04T02:42:08.367-08:00Bargaining With LoveBargaining With Love <br /><br /> Judges 16:15 And she said to him, How can you say, I love you, when your heart [is] not with me? you have mocked me these three times, and have not told me where your great strength [lies]. (GMR) <br /><br />The story of Samson is a classic example of how a person can use their love as a bargaining tool to get something from their spouse. <br /><br />This is as old as the Garden of Eden, where Adam ate the forbidden fruit because he loved Eve and wanted to please her, instead of the obeying the Lord.<br /><br />Probably the best passage to describe true love, is the thirteenth chapter of Corinthians. There Paul makes an interesting statement: <br /><br /> 1 Corinthians 13:3 And though I give away all my possessions to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned [as a martyr], and have not [agape] love, it benefits me nothing. (GMR) <br /><br />The world continually makes a big thing about helping humanity and doing great charitable deeds, but they seldom do this with a true motive of love. <br /><br />Usually the way of the world goes something like this: <br /><br />I will help you when you are in trouble, and then when I am in trouble I will expect you to help me. <br /><br />Or to put it as a symbolic picture: <br /><br />I will scratch your back, and you can scratch my back. <br /><br />The love that you give to your spouse should never be like this. It is never given as a trade or something that forces them to owe you something. <br /><br />Your love must be given freely, without expecting anything in return. It is a bit like giving someone a gift in secret so that they do not know where it came from. Then they do not feel they have to pay you back again. <br /><br />Have you been using your love to put your spouse under a debt to you? Then you are not doing it the Lord’s way. <br /><br />Don’t ever give your love, expecting something in return. Just love because that is what you enjoy doing, and that is what your spouse enjoys getting. Seeing the joy on their face, and the effect it has on their lives should be more than enough reward for you.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-24409472400014936722010-02-27T21:29:00.000-08:002010-02-27T21:34:24.753-08:00Giving Up Your Rights<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_9RYGyT7zwAUsG7pzF9ctJOWDtbR4QiAw0EN31Dxe7-uLczNgXKidUPaO2wxaRR8BsUGOByakxN3z70mtmy_ptN1MGhZbE_F-aWX0HMAU1paXTJ14Mqc7J0rRscXxz_zkZ5Pm1sM7AsIx/s1600-h/falling.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 387px; height: 310px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_9RYGyT7zwAUsG7pzF9ctJOWDtbR4QiAw0EN31Dxe7-uLczNgXKidUPaO2wxaRR8BsUGOByakxN3z70mtmy_ptN1MGhZbE_F-aWX0HMAU1paXTJ14Mqc7J0rRscXxz_zkZ5Pm1sM7AsIx/s400/falling.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5443162823119728466" /></a><br />Giving Up Your Rights<br /><br /> <br /><br />Philippians 2:4 Everyone should not be just paying attention to his own interests, but also to the needs of others.<br />5 You should have the same attitude that was in Christ Jesus:<br />6 He had the very essence of God but did not claim His right to be equal to God.:<br />7 Instead He emptied Himself and assumed the role of a servant, taking on the image of a mere man.<br />8 And having identified himself as man, he humbled himself, and became obedient to the point of death; death by crucifixion. (GMR) <br /><br />Claiming your rights seems to be one of the most important things for most people. They will fight to the bitter end just to defend their rights. <br /><br />But Jesus showed what we should be doing with our rights. He had probably the greatest rights that anyone could have. He had the right to be honored as God. But He gave us His rights out of love for us, so that we could be blessed and happy. <br /><br />Consider now the rights that you have in your marriage. As a husband or wife you have certain marital rights, which you could legally demand. But does this show your spouse how much you love them? Does this make your spouse want to spend the rest of their life with you? <br /><br />Just think of what each one of us have gained from Jesus giving up His rights to come and die for us. And in the end He benefited from it too. He was exalted above all things to the right hand of God. And now he has us as His Body, to make Him complete. <br /><br />Do you realize that without your spouse you are not complete? That is why you got married in the first place. So if you would like to make your spouse the happiest person around, and at the same time benefit from the best marriage ever, here is what you must do. <br /><br />LEARN TO GIVE UP YOUR RIGHTS! <br /><br />Here is a simple project for you to do for the next week. Each day when something happens where you feel that you have a right to something, try giving up that right. <br /><br />For example, if your spouse wants you to do something and you feel you have the right to refuse. Why not try submitting to their desire and giving up your right? <br /><br />I am not just talking about the wife submitting here. In fact it could be the complete opposite. It could be that the husband has a right to demand submission from his wife, but this time he lets her do what she wants to do. <br /><br />You might not even be able to think about what you consider to be a right. But after a week of looking out for it, you can start to make a list of the things you believe you have a right to. You might be amazed to find that any conflicts in your marriage have actually come every time a right is violated. <br /><br />And of course, most important of all. This is not a one way thing. It is no use just one partner giving up their rights. Unless you both do it, the marriage will become one sided and selfish, and nobody will be happy. <br /><br />Give it a try and see what happens.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-61464228804481526012010-02-18T03:29:00.000-08:002010-02-18T03:30:49.943-08:00Light That Fire Within!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBoGVSBXhNwU37SuBXLh6YEVbKQ5rxDuomJLYKtzyw8uBaYymiBzq-WUUyq7Nn7XyrCZTI6-Nw9jxkgTh7kvf6Gx9qRLQXQl90AJgI97gFV7X0mZYZYDMvaTcHOkCmWmHVFbvLtrauTUrz/s1600-h/rose_single.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 382px; height: 208px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhBoGVSBXhNwU37SuBXLh6YEVbKQ5rxDuomJLYKtzyw8uBaYymiBzq-WUUyq7Nn7XyrCZTI6-Nw9jxkgTh7kvf6Gx9qRLQXQl90AJgI97gFV7X0mZYZYDMvaTcHOkCmWmHVFbvLtrauTUrz/s400/rose_single.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5439544344883472546" /></a><br />Light That Fire Within! <br /><br />by Daphne Crause<br /><br />Human nature is strange! Something that means the world to you at the beginning, will suddenly no longer mean the same to you after a while. <br /><br />Let me give you an example. Supposing you have earnestly desired to buy a Cadillac for years! You’ve thought about it and dreamed about it, and suddenly the time comes for you to get your hands on one. You’re so excited! You think it is the best thing that has ever happened to you! You feel big and important and just want to drive around in it at every possible moment! <br /><br />But things begin to change. After a few month, suddenly the novelty and the feeling of being so special, begins to wear off. It is no longer so important to you, and you begin to take it for granted. When you need to go somewhere you just get in the Cadillac and drive. Hey, it’s your car. It’s what you drive. It’s nothing special! Now you are probably aiming for something better again. <br /><br />Why am I talking about driving elite cars on this marriage course? Because just like you can earnestly desire a car, a house or an overseas trip, the chances are you felt the same way about meeting and marrying your husband or wife. You really desired him or her badly, and you felt unfulfilled until you met each other. <br /><br />When you finally met and began to date, life became wonderful! You felt like you were walking around in heaven! Your heart’s desire was fulfilled. You were in love, and you felt like you could never live your life in any other way! <br /><br />But then what happens? Reality hits in! Pressures of life come upon both of you, maybe some kids arrive on the scene, and things are not quite the way they were before. You don’t feel the same excitement you did before, when your spouse phoned or arrived back from work or a business trip. You become busy with your life and go on your way, and while most of the time you are happy enough, often that spark has gone! <br /><br />So How Do You Get That Spark Back? <br /><br />It’s really not difficult to do. I want to propose a little test to you, which will very likely amaze you as you look at the results! You need to do it: <br /><br />1) Especially if you are unhappy in your marriage and are struggling through it <br /><br />2) If you are relatively happy, but there is no real excitement, and you are taking your spouse for granted <br /><br />In other words: <br /><br />Everyone Needs To Do This Test! <br /><br />How do you do it? It’s simple: <br /><br />Each of you must take a piece of paper and a pen. Now, sit down and begin to write down everything that you love about your spouse! When you first met him or her, what was it that made you get butterflies in your stomach when you just saw him or her? List everything that you can think of – what you loved in the past and what you love now. <br /><br />When you dated, did she always wear that beautiful perfume that made her smell so gorgeous and feminine? After you met him, did you love the way he always encouraged you after a bad day’s work? Did you love the way she smiled at you when you were feeling stressed, and made the sun shine in your life? Did you love the way he was such a gentleman and made you feel so special when you went on a date? <br /><br />Once you have written everything down, then hand the sheet of paper to your spouse and let them read how you see them. You may be amazed to find little things and habits about you that you didn’t know were appealing to your spouse! <br /><br />What is the point of this exercise? <br /><br />Firstly, you will remind yourself of all of those special things in your spouse that you have probably forgotten about or taken for granted. You will begin to stir up exciting and positive emotions about your spouse once again. You will begin to see them in a different way, and will see what a special person the Lord has given to you! <br /><br />The exercise can also lead you to begin communicating more! You may find yourself really opening up to your spouse and pouring out more that is in your heart that you feel about him or her. Just remember one thing: Keep it positive! You are not having a slinging match and telling all the negative things about your spouse. No, rather you are investing in the positive side of your marriage instead.<br /><br />Be richly blessed in your marriage today!Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8697229097070624526.post-2124112731708804902010-02-13T19:50:00.000-08:002010-02-13T19:52:48.349-08:00Marriage Roles<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwU4sc05g26ojBvG_fmgQw5cwnszaAVUsQyWdMpOVU5f16bvIurnQYu2Va0B9joVm_IESb4_S_k7bigx8bjn591MIgYENHm5e2gX6dZc-wAUbwZ1cD179G0q1KKrjTtvQhBf1v7moiZI_Z/s1600-h/marriage_spring08.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 370px; height: 400px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiwU4sc05g26ojBvG_fmgQw5cwnszaAVUsQyWdMpOVU5f16bvIurnQYu2Va0B9joVm_IESb4_S_k7bigx8bjn591MIgYENHm5e2gX6dZc-wAUbwZ1cD179G0q1KKrjTtvQhBf1v7moiZI_Z/s400/marriage_spring08.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5437941958994757986" /></a><br />Marriage Roles <br /><br />Have you ever taken part in a play at some time in your life? It can be a fun experience, but it can also be a very difficult experience if you do not learn your part properly. <br /><br />I am sure you know of at least one occasion where someone forgot their lines, and everyone was waiting for them to do their part. If this ever happened to you, then you probably still think back on that time with embarrassment. <br /><br />Sometimes you even get confusion, where one person ends up saying someone else’s lines instead of their own. <br /><br />Marriage is a lot like a play. Each person has a part to play, and if both of them do their part right, the play is a success. But if one person fails to play their part, or tries to play the part of the other, then there is confusion and conflict. <br /><br />What I am going to look at in this study, is the roles that a husband and wife should play in a marriage according to the Scriptures. <br /><br />Unfortunately most of us learn about marriage by watching our parents and other marriage couples, or the way we see marriage pictured on TV. What you think is right for a husband or wife to do or not do could be completely different to what God says. <br /><br />So let’s see exactly what the Bible tells us should be the role of each person in the marriage. When you have finished reading this lesson, I want you to sit down and take a good hard look at yourself and see if you really are fulfilling your marriage role correctly. <br /><br />And even more important is whether you have perhaps not only failed to carry out your marriage role, but you have taken over and carried out some of the roles of your spouse. This is one of the greatest causes of problems, not only in a marriage, but also in a family when children come along. <br /><br />Scriptures on Marriage Roles <br /><br />1 Corinthians 14:34 Let your wives remain silent in the churches: for it is not permitted to them to speak; but [they are commanded] to be under obedience, as also the law says.<br />35 And if they want to learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for wives to speak in the church. (GMR) <br /><br />Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord.<br />23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.<br />24 Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.<br />25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;<br />26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the [rhema] word,<br />27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.<br />28 So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself.<br />29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church:<br />30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.<br />31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.<br />32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.<br />33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband. (GMR) <br /><br />Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.<br />19 Husbands, love [your] wives, and be not bitter against them.(GMR) <br /><br />1 Timothy 3:11 Even so [must their] wives [be] grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.<br />12 Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.(GMR) <br /><br />Titus 2:1 But you speak the things that are fitting for sound doctrine:<br />2 That the older men be sober, grave, self-controlled, sound in faith, in [agape] love, in endurance.<br />3 The older women likewise, in a demeanor that reflects holiness, not slanderers, not addicted to much wine, teachers of good things;<br />4 That they may disciple the young women, to love their husbands, to love their children,<br />5 [To be] self-controlled, chaste, homemakers, pleasant, subject to their own husbands, that the word of God is not slandered. (GMR) <br /><br />1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, you wives, [be] in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conduct of the wives;<br />2 While they observe your chaste conduct [coupled] with fear.<br />3 Whose beauty aids should not be an emphasis on the external, such as plaiting the hair, wearing of gold, or putting on of clothing;<br />4 But rather the hidden qualities of the heart, which cannot be corrupted; a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.<br />5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their own husbands:<br />6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.<br />7 Likewise, you husbands, dwell with your wives in an understanding way, assigning value to her femininity, as a weaker instrument, and as being heirs together of the grace of [zoe] life; that your prayers are not hindered. (GMR) <br /><br />1 Timothy 3:1 This [is] a true saying, Whoever desires the office of an overseer, desires a good work.<br />2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;<br />3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;<br />4 One that rules well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;<br />5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?) (GMR) <br /><br />The Role of the Husband <br /><br />The Scriptures are very clear on the role of the husband in marriage. I will list them here, and you can compare this with the Scriptures above to confirm that this is God’s order. <br /><br />1. Teach his wife <br /><br />The husband is to be the instructor of his wife. This does not mean that wives are ignorant, but it means that a husband should not keep things from his wife. <br /><br />The husband and wife are a partners together, and there should be nothing hidden from each other. They should share in everything. Men often keep their wives ignorant on things that they do not consider important. This can often cause a block in communication in the marriage. <br /><br />2. Head of his wife <br /><br />The husband is to be head in the home, and the leader in the marriage. The mistake that many married couples make is looking at natural leadership capabilities. Often the wife is a better natural leader than the husband, and it is easier to let her take control. <br /><br />When a husband does this he violates his responsibility and role in the home and brings not only confusion, but also the possibility of attack. When the husband remains the head of the home, his family is protected from attack. <br /><br />3. The Savior of his wife <br /><br />The husband is to be the protector and provider in the home. His wife rests under his protection, and is safe from attack. When a wife has problems and needs help, she should be able to look first to her husband to save her from her difficulties. <br /><br />Paul said that Jesus was head of the church, but also its Savior. He gave His life for our protection and salvation. The husband should be prepared to do the same for his wife. <br /><br />4. Love his wife like Christ loved the church <br /><br />God commands the husband specifically to love his wife. This means that it is the responsibility of the husband to bring love into the home. If love is missing, then he is held responsible for this. <br /><br />Jesus loves the Church unconditionally. A husband must be as Christ to his wife, and show her what true unconditional love is. <br /><br />5. Give himself for her then he can perfect her <br /><br />The husband is to make his wife perfect. But before he can do that he must be prepared to sacrifice all for her, as Jesus did for the church. <br /><br />When a husband loves in this way, he not only earns the right to address things in his wife, but he automatically releases the power of God to work in her and make her into the perfect wife. <br /><br />The key to changing your wife is therefore to give up all for her, and to sacrifice yourself completely for her good. <br /><br />6. Love her as his own body <br /><br />If your body is in pain, you attend to it right away. If you body has a need or desire, you tend to take care of it first. <br /><br />The husband is to love his wife in this way, and so demonstrate the love of Jesus. A simple guideline would be to make sure that you give your wife as much attention as you give to your body. That includes all bodily desires as well as needs. <br /><br />7. Leave his parents and be joined to his wife <br /><br />This is a major area of failure in husbands. <br /><br />A wife generally finds it easy to leave her parents and be joined to her husband. She should have left her mother long ago to come under her father’s influence before leaving home. Now she simply moves out from under her father to being under her husband. <br /><br />For the husband this is not so easy. He has moved out from under his parents authority, but instead of coming under a new authority, he must himself become the authority. Most men fail here and still go back to mommy and daddy for advice. <br /><br />NOT A GOOD IDEA! <br /><br />Grow up and put your wife first from now on. You are partners now in something new. Parents can only give advice, which you must both agree on before you accept it. <br /><br />8. Love and do not be bitter against his wife <br /><br />Love must be unconditional like the love of God. When a husband allows anger and bitterness to rule his heart, he not only fails to provide the right covering, he damages the marriage. <br /><br />Bitterness is an open door to a curse in the home and the marriage. So when things start to go wrong, before you go blaming your wife, take a look at your beam first and see if you are not the cause of it. <br /><br />9. Treat his wife like a lady <br /><br />Ephesians 5:7 Likewise, you husbands, dwell with your wives in an understanding way, assigning value to her femininity, as a weaker instrument, and as being heirs together of the grace of [zoe] life; that your prayers are not hindered.(GMR) <br /><br />Paul says that a husband should highly value his wife’s femininity, and her weakness as a woman. Your wife should always be treated with tenderness and appreciation. She is a special gift from the Lord, and your partner in life. <br /><br />When a husband allows his wife to be his partner in the marriage, then there is a unity that results in powerful answers to prayer. <br /><br />11. A One-Woman Man <br /><br />Although it is in the nature of a man to appreciate the beauty of other women, he should never try to compare his wife with others. To him she must be the most lovely woman in the world. <br /><br />When a husband is truly a one woman man, he will pour everything into his wife and she will rise up and compliment him in all things. He should always be proud to present his wife to the world and to boast about her to others. <br /><br />12. Has the children under control, not his wife <br /><br />A husband is meant to be the head of the home and to have his children under control. This does not mean he should do his wife the same as though she is one of the children. <br /><br />Although the husband is the leader in the partnership, it is still a partnership. A husband who bosses his wife around or tries to be superior to her or talk down to her is not showing the model of Christ to the church. <br /><br />It is not for you to control you wife through a strong will. It is for you to influence your wife through tender love and consideration and understanding.Dave Brooshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06400500398264976717noreply@blogger.com0